My husband and I both already have genital herpes and were told not to bother with condoms now. He has recently become enamored with anal sex, but, I want to know, can he spread the herpes virus there? Can you catch herpes when you already have it?
–Submissive to my Dominant
Once you have the herpes virus, you have the antibodies in your system, cannot be re-infected. As I’m sure you know, there is no cure for genital herpes. Many people take medication to treat outbreaks or prevent them. Genital herpes outbreaks can occur anywhere in the genital area, including in and around the anus; however, you won’t get a localized outbreak on your ass just from having anal sex. Two good resources for more information are the website HerpesOnline and The National Herpes Hotline (919-361-8488).