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May 8: Race & Racism in BDSM Communities Roundtable

May 062015

This week’s episode is a necessary conversation on a complex topic. Angel, Brecklyn, and Mollena Williams discuss race, racism, and various issues that Black Indigenous People of Color (BIPOC) face in BDSM communities. They tackle the controversy surrounding International Ms. Leather 2015, inclusivity in the kink world, how social media has changed the way we talk about race, the concept of colorblindness, practical advice for white allies, and “the luxury of discomfort.” Recorded live at International Ms. Leather 2015 in San Jose.

Tune in Friday, May 8 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.

Angel is a trans gender defiant queer, whose passion lies in educating, advocating and coaching folks to sexual and intimate fulfillment. Angel is committed to social justice and a fully realized and intersectional sex positivity.

Brecklyn is an East Coast-raised stone butch dyke and boy. He’s been active in the leather and kink community over the past 5 years and outside that has facilitated workshops on topics including anti-oppression, trauma, and organic farming. He especially likes to connect with other queer and trans people of color and can be reached on FetLife at theory_nowpractice.

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Owned by “Herr Meister,” (her beloved Maestro, an internationally acclaimed composer) Mollena Williams currently serves as Muse and slave in his heart and home. For her part, she’s an award-winning, critically acclaimed writer, actress, BDSM Educator, and storyteller. She is author of The Toybag Guide: Taboo Play and co-author of Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities. Her perspectives on BDSM are frequently sought after by news sources such as The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Newsweek, Essence, and Ebony, and is a frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast.

Her essays appear in Tristan Taormino’s The Ultimate Guide to Kinky Sex and a bunch of the Best Sex Writing books. She’s a featured educator with KinkAcademy.com. Her award-winning experimental short BDSM film “IMPACT” debuted at Yerba Buena Center for the Arts and has screened in the USA, Canada, Europe and Australia in Cinekink 2013, as well as indie film festivals across North America, Europe and Australia.

She is International Ms. Leather 2010 and Ms. SF Leather 2009, was honored with the 2012 Jack McGeorge Award for Excellence in Education in BDSM, and is thrilled to have won the National Leather Association’s 2011 and 2012 Cynthia Slater Non-Fiction Article Award and shared the 2013 Geoff Mains Non-Fiction book award for Playing Well with Others.

May 1: Emily Nagoski on Transforming Your Sex Life with Science

Apr 302015

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This week on Sex Out Loud I talk live with Emily Nagoski, sex educator, writer, researcher, and one of the best sex question answerers I know! Her latest book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, is a New York Times bestseller and you’ll learn so much this essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works. We’ll discuss the biological and psychological factors that influence our sexuality and how you can shape them intentionally to create better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.

Tune in Friday, May 1st at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Sex educator, author, research and activist Emily Nagoski has a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a Master’s degree (also from IU) in Counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She also has a B.A. in Psychology, with minors in cognitive science and philosophy, from the University of Delaware. While at IU, Emily worked as an educator and docent at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex Gender and Reproduction. She also taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education. She is the author of three guides for Ian Kerner’s GoodInBed.com: The Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Man, The Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, and A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships, and the New York Times bestseller, Come as You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life. A sex nerd among sex nerds, Emily has the lowest Erdős number of any sex educator in the world. She lives in western Massachusetts with two dogs, two cats, and a cartoonist.

April 17: Lynn Comella on New Views of Pornography: Sexuality, Politics, and the Law

Apr 172015

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This week’s guest on Sex Out Loud is Dr. Lynn Comella, writer, cultural scholar, and professor who just published New Views on Pornography: Sexuality, Politics, and the Law. We’ll discuss contemporary and controversial issues in pornography, politics, and the law, including scholarship in philosophy, media studies, criminology, and more. Find out why Laura Kipnis says “This is recent porn scholarship at its best.” We’ll also discuss the growth of porn studies as an academic field of study and where we hope it will go in the future.

Tune in Friday, April 17th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

lynn_comella_by_ryan_olbrysh_RGB-2 Lynn Comella, Ph.D. is an Associate Professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She is the recipient of the 2015 Nevada Regents’ Rising Researcher Award, which is given annually to one faculty member from UNLV, UNR, and DRI in recognition of early-career accomplishments. An interdisciplinary scholar trained in cultural studies, her research is motivated by a desire to better understand a number of broad sociological themes, including the relationship between gender, sexual politics, marketplace culture, and consumer capitalism. Her work has been published in the International Journal of Communication, Feminist Media Studies, The Feminist Porn Book, Sex for Sale, and New Sociologies of Sex Work, among other venues. In addition to her numerous publications in peer-reviewed academic journals and books, Dr. Comella has researched and written more than 45 articles about sex and culture for local and national media outlets. She has reported on the state of sex education in Nevada, the history of prostitution in Las Vegas from 1905 – 1955, and the growth of women’s erotica, among other topics. She is the co-editor of New Views on Pornography: Sexuality, Politics, and the Law (Praeger, 2015) and is a contributor to Best Sex Writing of the Year (Cleis Press, 2015). Dr. Comella received a Ph.D. in Communication from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst; an M.A. in Gender Studies and Feminist Theory from the New School for Social Research; and a B.A. in Psychology (Highest Distinction), with minors in Anthropology and Women’s Studies, from The Pennsylvania State University.

Apr 3: International Porn Superstar Stoya on Creating Curated Smut

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On Friday, April 3rd at 5 pm PT (8 pm ET), we welcome international porn superstar and writer Stoya to Sex Out Loud radio. Tristan interviews Stoya about her journey into the world of porn, writing for VICE, New York Times & Esquire, and her latest collaboration with Kayden Kross, the new site TRENCHCOATx.com, which focuses on high quality product, fair prices for the consumer, and fair pay for the people who work for them. Don’t miss this enchanting and provocative hour with the person the Village Voice called “America’s sweetheart of smut” and learn why Stoya believes there’s “a fun way to be called a dirty whore”.

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This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

STOYA is the co-owner: http://TRENCHCOATx.com. Occasional Writer. Highly skilled at avoiding pants. Follow her on Twitter.

Mar 27: Lorraine Hewitt of Good For Her on the Feminist Porn Awards

Mar 252015

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This Friday, March 27th, at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT, Sex Out Loud is back with season three! I’m thrilled to kick off the next phase with my guest Lorraine Hewitt aka CoCo La Creme: sex educator, advice columnist, performer, and Creative Director of the Feminist Porn Awards. We’ll discuss the history of the event, share stories from the first years, and get a preview of what to expect in Toronto for the 2015 FPAs. Hewitt will talk about the changing landscape of porn, including the effects of having more people of colour, trans folks, queers and lesbians directing films featuring their communities without being fetishized and with respect.

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Lorraine Hewitt (aka CoCo La Crème) is an experienced sex educator who has been enhancing the sex lives of Torontonians for over 10 years. Her wealth of knowledge, warm personality and wicked sense of humour ensure that her classes are always as comfortable as they are informative. Lorraine focusses on teaching essential sensual skills and improving erotic communication and her work has been featured on numerous television shows, major print publications and blogs. She presents several workshops including Giving Great Head, Flirtation 101, Romantic Sex for Couples and Open Relationships for the Open Hearted. Lorraine is a founding member of the Feminist Porn Awards team and she currently serves as Creative Director for the event.

At Good For Her, our staff and customers felt limited by the options of mainstream porn, complete with stereotypes and narrow representations of bodies, desires and pleasure. We began noticing in the early 2000s that more women, trans folk and historically marginalized communities were getting behind the camera. It was no longer as financially prohibitive to purchase a camera, editing equipment and distribute films. We decided to create an event to recognize, celebrate and endorse films with a feminist difference and in 2006 the Feminist Porn Awards were born. The FPAs have grown into a 3 night event with more porn shown and more industry folks attending and even more porn being created with performers from different places meeting up to work together. It has become an opportunity for feminists to find and feel good about their porn and a springboard for performers and directors to gain some attention for their awesome work. This year’s awards take place April 15-17 in Toronto.

Dec 19: Megan Andelloux on Reducing Sexual Shame and Advancing the Field of Sexuality

Dec 182014

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On Sex Out Loud this Friday, I’m live with Megan Andelloux, one of America’s most sought-after speakers on the topic of sexuality and founder/executive directors of The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (The CSPH). Megan and I will discuss The CSPH’s work with medical providers as well as the professional development opportunities they offer to folks looking to get into the sexuality field. Megan will also talk about her book, Hot and Fast: Sexy, Spontaneous Quickies for Passionate Orgasms, as well as answer listener questions live on the air

This week’s show is LIVE so call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Megan Andelloux, founder and executive director of The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (The CSPH), is a Clinical Sexologist, AASECT certified Sexuality Educator, and ISSWSH Fellow. Her innovative education programs, writing, social media presence, and ambitious speaking schedule have helped make her one of America’s most recognized and sought-after experts in the growing field of sexual pleasure, health, and politics. She has delivered her dynamic programs at more than 175 institutions of higher education, including 7 of the 8 Ivy League universities, and is an Adjunct Instructor in the Brown University Medical School. In 2012, Ms. Andelloux received the First Tracks Award for Innovation in Sexology by Honest Exchange, as well as came out with her first book, Hot and Fast: Sexy, Spontaneous Quickies for Passionate Orgasms (Amorata Press). She has also written timely consumer feature stories, industry trend reports, and journal articles for the education and research communities. Find The CSPH on Tumblr | Twitter | Facebook.

Dec 5: Dr. Ruth Neustifter on The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty

Dec 042014

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It’s already December and I’m back live this week on Sex Out Loud radio, this time with Dr. Ruthie aka Dr. Ruth Neustifter, co-chair of the Guelph Sexuality Conference and author of the book, The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty. We’ll discuss the professional sexuality conference that happens in Canada each year and why you should start planning a trip for it now. They’ll also discuss the gift of dirty talk and how you can develop your own dirty talk style.

Dr. Ruth Neustifter is an author, university faculty member, and sexuality researcher that joins us from snowy Ontario, Canada. They are also proud to co-chair one of the largest and longest running annual professional sexuality conferences in Canada, The Guelph Sexuality Conference. Since the late 1990s Ruthie has specialized in sexual well-being and pleasure, as well as the resilience of survivors of intimate violence. They are the author of The Nice Girl’s Guide To Talking Dirty and an upcoming book on trauma survivors through Routledge, as well as numerous academic publications and presentations. They have given workshops throughout North American as well as in Mexico and Europe in venues ranging from homeless shelters to universities to resorts. Dr. Ruthie considers themself an advocate for pleasure, intimacy, consent, and sex-positivity regardless of one’s past history, gender, health, sexuality, or desires.

Nov 14: Jacq Jones on her Baltimore sex-positive shop Sugar and selling sex toys in the age of the internet

Nov 132014

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This week’s episode of Sex Out Loud was recorded live in Baltimore while I was out on the road. I spent an hour with Jacq Jones, owner of the Baltimore sex-positive shop Sugar: a lesbian owned, multi-gender operated, for profit, mission driven sex toy store. By providing education and toys in a shame-free, sex-positive environment, Sugar helps people of all genders and sexual orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Jacq Jones is a passionate advocate for a sex positive world, radical consent, sex ed, safer sex and reproductive health care. She has worked in sex education and reproductive health care since 1994. She is the owner of Sugar, a sex positive, education focused, lesbian owned, multi-gender operated sex toy store in Baltimore and online at SugarTheShop.com

Oct 31: Emily Letts on Challenging the Stigma of Abortion

Oct 282014

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT, I’m live with Emily Letts, who won the Abortion Care Network’s Stigma Busting video competition. The video documenting her own abortion experience went viral and became the subject of international headlines. She discuss why she decided to share her experience publicly, the response she’s gotten from others, and her work with NotAlone.Us, a website where women (and men) post videos of their abortion stories.

Emily Letts currently lives in Chicago. Besides her work with NotAlone.US she is working on a dual masters in public health and social work at the University of Illinois at Chicago with a concentration in women’s health. Her video has over four million views and won the Judge’s Choice award in the Abortion Care Network’s first Abortion Stigma Busting Video Competition.

Oct 24: Cyndi Darnell on the State of Sex Education in Australia, How American Audiences Ask Different Questions, and Her Love of Erotic Anatomy Lessons

Oct 222014

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This week I’m so excited to bring sex educator, counselor, and therapist Cyndi Darnell to Sex Out Loud. We talk about her work, her obsession with erotic anatomy, and her new project The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal. We discuss the difference between Australian audiences and American ones, but also the elements of sexuality that are universal no matter where she teaches. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Cyndi Darnell is one of Australia’s leading sex therapists and sex educators with over 20 years experience studying human sexuality from the clinical to the esoteric. Her work and commentary has been sought for media around the country including Channel 10’s The Project, ABC Radio National, Triple J, Triple R, JOY 94.9, ABC Melbourne with Jon Faine, The Age, Sydney Morning Herald, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Mamamia and both Aust. Women’s & Men’s Health Magazines. She was also a co-creator of six educational podcasts with Catherine Deveny on popular topics in adult sex education. She was the founder and host of Pleasure Forum Australia which ran in Melbourne from 2010- 2013. Cyndi has also hosted events and spoke at The Wheeler Centre, Victoria University, University of Melbourne, Family Planning Victoria, Arts Access Victoria , Aust. College of Applied Psychology, and she was a panelist with the prestigious Sydney ‘‘Women Say Something’’ event.

Cyndi counsels individuals, couples & beyond on issues related to sex and relationships from her practice in Melbourne and globally via Skype. She runs comprehensive and entertaining educational seminars and workshops on adult sexuality, pleasure & relationships both in Australia and globally to demystify sex and emphasize pleasure. Cyndi is known for her capacity to offer practical information, esoteric insight and emotional warmth & reassurance all wrapped up in light -hearted Australian humor and fabulous footwear. She is uniquely placed to be able to bridge the world of sexology from a variety of perspectives and approaches that embrace, understand and challenge the diversity of human sexuality.

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