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Porn, Fisting and Censorship

Aug 242011
 

When I first conceptualized The Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex, I wanted it to be truly advanced and reflect the content of the Advanced Anal Sex workshop that I teach. So I believed it should include two important components: anal pleasure with both men and women as receivers and anal fisting. I knew both could be controversial. Men receiving anal penetration usually shows up in pegging-specific porn, so it might surprise some viewers. And fisting…well, fisting opens up a pandora’s box when it comes to mainstream porn.

There is a lot of misinformation out there about fisting and porn, so I want to cover some basics before I delve into the specifics. Both vaginal fisting and anal fisting can be seen in GLBT, queer, kinky, and indie porn, which is mostly produced by independent directors and distributed by small companies. Mainstream porn companies rarely shoot vaginal or anal fisting. This censorship is self-imposed and comes straight from adult industry lawyers. Basically, fisting is on a list of consensual activities we (those of us who work for mainstream companies) can’t shoot along with piss play, enema play, and certain types of BDSM. Why don’t we shoot them?

The lawyers are trying to prevent companies from being indicted and successfully prosecuted for obscenity. Obscenity, as it is (nebulously) defined in the law is a huge topic, so let me point you to some readings on it. John Stagliano successfully fought his obscenity prosecution and won in 2010, but it cost him a ton of money and time and was dismissed based on a lot of legal technicalities rather than a ruling that the content was not obscene. Max Hardcore went to jail for obscenity in 2009 (his videos showed fisting, peeing, and vomiting). In 2002, Seymore Butts was successfully prosecuted for depictions of vaginal and anal fisting in a scene between Alisha Klass and Chloe in the movie Tampa Tushy Fest Part 1 (background here: (PBS/Frontline  and Violet Blue’s Tiny Nibbles). To be clear, fisting is not specified as obscene under the law. However, it did appear in a memo in the 80s from an LA D.A. as something that could trigger obscenity charges. While Seymore’s prosecution wasn’t entirely successful for the District Attorney (it ended with a plea bargain which favored Seymore), Max Harcore’s was, and both just reinforce the fears among the industry’s big companies that fisting is a potential danger zone.

So fisting is on a list of no-no’s. Ironically, some of the same companies that won’t shoot fisting do shoot things like: double vaginal penetration (two dicks in one vagina simultaneously), double anal penetration (two dicks in one ass simultaneously), and giant toys bigger than a person’s fist. But five fingers and the entire hand? Nope.

It’s arbitrary. It’s bizarre. It censors what I consider to be a radical, queer, and kinky activity. A sex act that doesn’t require a penis and is not intercourse-based (like the aforementioned double penetrations). One that can be done by folks of all genders and sexual orientations. One that has its roots in gay and lesbian sexuality. One that people practice and enjoy, and I happen to really love.

But I knew fisting was off the table because I work for Vivid Entertainment, a large mainstream company that is an easy target for the government.

When I shot the movie, I decided to shoot some additional footage. After we shot the “workshop” portion of the movie (where I give viewers a lesson on anatomy, hygiene, lube, toys, techniques, etc.), I shot a little bit of me talking about anal fisting. Then, when I shot the scene with Kylie Ireland and James Deen, I decided I would shoot a little extra. It seemed perfect. I mean, Kylie loves anal fisting. She does it in her personal life, she has orgasms from it, and she speaks articulately and enthusiastically about it on camera. During the scene, they got to five-fingers-but-not-quite-fisting. Black Dragon nitrile gloves and the Hitachi Magic Wand came along for the ride. A good time was had by all! I didn’t shoot the whole hand-chilada, because I, too, could be at risk of prosecution.

Here’s the deal: I’m burning 25 DVDs of my educational mini-feature on anal fisting. The first 25 people to order The Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex on my site will receive this Limited Edition DVD, hand signed and numbered by me. I know some folks might still be disappointed not to see anal fisting, but I hope my fans will appreciate that I’m still getting the information out there. So, order early, and it can be yours!

Part 2 of this blog, with more specifics about Kylie and James’ scene for the movie, coming later today.

Lube Novice

Oct 232005
 

I’m just starting to explore my butt with my partner and we’ve got hung up on the how and where of lube. Obviously, I know I need plenty inside for comfort, but how do I get it there? I mean, does it go on his penis? If so, doesn’t it all just rub off at the anal opening? How does it get where it needs to go?

–Lube Novice

The basic rule of thumb with lube is ‘on’ rather than ‘in.’ So, lube should coat whatever it is that’s going inside you (a finger, a toy, a cock), and you should reapply it as you need more or it dries up. Trying to pour lube into an orifice doesn’t really work very well. Although, you can dribble some lube at the anal opening, and “push” it inside with the tip of a finger, dildo, etc.

If you feel like you’re still not getting enough lube where you need it to be, I suggest a few tools. The Lube Shooter is a disposable hard plastic syringe with a flared base that you fill with your desired lube (a process that can be a little messy). Insert the body of the syringe in the ass, push the plunger, and voila, lube right where you want it! Also disposable and easy to use, the Astroglide Gel Shooter is a prefilled flexible rubber tube of lube with a long neck that can be inserted into the anal canal (after removing the tip, of course). Squeeze the tube, and lube goes into the ass. You can also fill up a plastic irrigation syringe (found at drugstores) or a stainless steel enema syringe (available at specialty stores) for the same purpose.

New to Anal

Jun 182005
 

My fiancé and I have always wanted to try anal sex, so we bought your video and we got a beginner’s anal kit. I was wondering though, is it safe for a man to come in your ass? And if he does, do you have to have an enema to clean it out afterwards?

–New to Anal

If a man comes inside your ass without a condom, as the recipient of the come, you are at risk of contracting HIV, hepatitis, and other sexually-transmitted diseases (if your partner has any of these, of course). If you and your fiancé have tested negative sexually-transmitted diseases and are monogamous, then it’s safe for him to come in your butt. What goes in must come out, though, as our butts have a natural flushing-out process. So, you may have a runny bowel movement afterward, but there’s no need to have an enema post-buttfucking.

Drunken Asswoman

Mar 102005
 

My husband and I routinely do anal play together, and he is tempted to try pouring alcohol into my ass, like wine or vodka. Is it possible to get drunk by ingesting alcohol through one’s ass? Are there any implications from putting alcohol in one’s ass?

–Drunken Asswoman

Not only is it possible to get drunk by having any kind of alcoholic beverage poured into your ass, it’s inevitable. When you drink a glass of wine or vodka, it has the benefit of passing through your stomach and liver, where it’s broken down by enzymes before entering the bloodstream. However, because of the absorptive capacity of the rectum and colon, when you absorb alcohol through your ass, it goes directly into your bloodstream. This means that a much smaller amount will make you very drunk. It’s very dangerous to ingest alcohol the way you describe (essentially via an alcohol enema) and could even result in alcohol poisoning. If you want to drink, do it with your mouth. If you want an enema, use plain warm water.

Fucking a Fluid-Filled Bottom

Sep 132004
 

For the last few months, my lover had been hankering to try anal sex. After reading your advice, buying lots of lube, and experimenting with a host of toys, we finally managed to get his gorgeous cock all the way in my bottom and fuck me — and I had a fantastic orgasm! Since he’d never had anal sex before, as you can imagine, he is now a very happy bunny and wants more! He currently has a fantasy about filling my bottom with lots of creamy liquid, and then fucking me like that.

We’ve seen stuff like this in porn movies, but I’m curious about how they do it and how we should do it. What liquid do we use and how much would be safe? I’ve been giving myself brief enemas before our anal play so I’m kind of used to stuff being there. I’m not sure how long it’d stay there and if there are any safety concerns I should be aware of. Any suggestions would be appreciated, and thanks for all the great advice you give people.

–Fucking a Fluid-Filled Bottom

Congrats on joining the anal bottom brigade, and thanks for sharing your fun fantasy with me and your fellow readers. In general, I am a purist about what people should put in their asses: I endorse only plain water, lube, ejaculate, fingers, cocks, tongues, and toys. I discourage exotic enema ingredients, ice cream sundae toppings, and other equally wacky substances.

But, in the case of your sweetheart’s idea, you’re in luck. He can fill your ass with lube! There are several great water-based lubes on the market – including Hydra Smooth, Sensual Power, and Liquid Silk — which have creamy consistencies. In fact, they have a look and feel that’s a lot like a man’s cum (which I think may be what your guy is going for). Plus, they are lubricants, designed for penetration, and therefore, totally safe! If he wants to really fill you up, you may want to buy a plastic disposable syringe (available at medical supply stores and some drug stores), which he can fill with lube, and “shoot” up your ass.

If he succeeds in filling your ass, remember, what goes in must come out. You may be a little runny for a day, as all that lube works its way out of your ass, so keep that in mind; I’d avoid, say, silk pants, for a few days.

Butt Buffet Boy

Feb 242004
 

My girlfriend has a severe anal sex fetish. She prefers it over vaginal intercourse. Fortunately, I don’t mind it one bit. We’ve done some ass-to-mouth stuff, since we are monogamous and STD-free. I’d like to experiment eating food out of her anus — either food shoved partially into the anus or food that has been completely inserted and then pushed out. I’m wondering what food products would be safe for this, since I don’t want anything to get stuck up there. So I’m looking for something that would be semi-rigid, but would also melt or dissolve if it got lost. I was thinking about things like M&Ms (the non-peanut variety) and other chocolate things, but I can only stomach so much chocolate.

–Butt Buffet Boy

Usually I advise people against sticking food in their ass, since food items are not sex toys and are better left in the kitchen. But you seem pretty invested in this food fantasy, so I’ll suspend my anti-food stance for this response. But before I go there, I just have to say that what you describe is an interesting twist on one of the most taboo desires in the world: scat play. Scat play involves people defecating into other people’s mouths, eating shit, and generally eroticizing it. It sounds to me that you like the idea of stuff coming out of your girlfriend’s ass, even stuff that resembles what typically comes out of our asses (you suggested chocolate, not me), but you want it to be previously undigested.

As long as you take care to insert your chosen edibles just inside the anus and not too far up, there’s no great danger of soft or small foods getting lost. What goes in will inevitably come out. You should avoid foods like jalapeno peppers, seeded breadsticks, and others that are spicy, abrasive, or could break into sharp-edged pieces, which could all irritate the delicate rectal tissue. Also stay away from salami or sausages, since nitrites used for preserving meat aren’t good for you. I’m glad to hear that you’ve both been tested for STDs, but it’s probably still a good idea if your girlfriend has an enema a few hours before your feast, since her ass contains bacteria that may be fine in the lower intestine, but may cause problems if you ingest it.

Love or Lust?

Mar 282003
 

I’m a girl who likes to indulge in many different forms of erotic play, including: spanking, enemas, assfucking, bondage, fisting (vaginal and anal), S/M, and play piercing. I was introduced to these in college when I was 19, and have been enjoying them for years (I am now 29). Unfortunantly, my girlfriend refuses to participate in any of my fantasies. I live in a small city with my girlfriend where it’s impossible to meet anyone who enjoys ‘out of the ordinary fucking’ (traditional, man/woman, dick into pussy fucking). There isn’t even an adult toy store! I love her very much, but I constantly feel restless and incomplete when it comes to our sex lives. I don’t want to leave her, but I want to be able to satisfy my sexual needs. I’ve tried talking to her, but she won’t change her mind. I honestly don’t know what to do and would like an outside opinion.

–Love or Lust?

Your problem is more common than you might think because it boils down to this: you and your girlfriend are sexually incompatible. You tend toward experimentation, SM, and kink, where she sounds like she prefers a straightforward vanilla sex life. First know that sex and sexual compatibility are valuable, important aspects of a relationship, and the fact that you make them a priority doesn’t make you shallow or wrong. If your partner will not meet you half way and even try some of these activities with you, then you have two options: negotiate to open your relationship, so that you can explore your desires and fantasies with other partners or find a new girlfriend.

Painful Pee Post-Sex

Feb 252003
 

I develop a urinary tract infection (UTI) almost every time I have anal sex, and it is really frustrating. I thought I was doing everything right. I have an enema beforehand. I make sure there is not too much fondling of my vagina during anal sex (although I hate that, as I always enjoy his fingers or a toy inside me during anal). After making love, I get up and shower, washing with mild soap (which is inconvenient to do just after sex). I have seen a urologist about this annoyance, and have been given an antibiotic as a prophylactic, but I do not like the antibiotic therapy. We do not switch from tushy to pussy, and my ass is almost always very clean, although I realize that we can only be so clean, as there is microscopic bacteria in the rectum. I would appreciate any recommendations you have, so I can stop having UTIs and keep having more anal sex.

–Painful Pee Post-Sex

Many women get UTIs after sex because bacteria from your partner’s cock, or your ass, gets into the urethra where it causes an infection. It sounds to me like you may be especially prone to UTIs if you are getting them so frequently. You have been doing all the right things (enema, no ass to pussy, no vaginal play during anal, and a post-sex shower) to prevent a possible infection, but I do have some additional advice.

First and foremost, make sure that lube from your ass isn’t “migrating” to your pussy. This is a common problem, especially if you are doing it doggie-style. One way to prevent what I call “the drip down effect” is to switch to a different position, like missionary, where gravity is working in your favor. You should also try to keep some unscented baby wipes on hand to wipe excess lube away from your butt before it makes its way to your pussy. After sex, the first thing you should do is pee, even if you feel like you don’t have to. The simple act of urinating can flush out any bacteria that may have gotten into your urethra. Then, shower as you have been to wash away lube, semen, and any other body fluids you’ve got in or on you. Make sure you drink plenty of fluids after anal sex, and pee often to make sure to clear out the urethra.

Strap-on Slut

Feb 132003
 

I’m a lesbian in a relationship with a great girl. I’d visited your website before and the idea of anal sex interested both of us, but we’d never gone beyond a little hesitant touching. Your book was an eye-opening experience! I thought that my sex life was fun before, but you helped us to safely discover a whole new level of pleasure, and I really want to thank you for that. My girlfriend and I have different views on the subject: she likes it when I penetrate her with a strap-on dildo; I prefer when she puts a butt plug in my ass, and I wear it for a while — I like the “full feeling” better. We use condoms on our toys, we’re careful to take our time, and we use plenty of lubricant.

After an anal session, whether it’s with a butt plug or dildo, however, my girlfriend gets abdominal cramps. She has absolutely no pain during sex itself (quite the opposite), only afterwards! We have tried different positions, enemas, breathing techniques, and having several orgasms before anal penetration. The dildo I am using is only about 1.5″ in diameter, and she has no problem taking it. The only time she doesn’t suffer these symptoms is when we just do gentle fingering (one or two fingers). This would be fine except she is very into the strap-on. Can you help us?

–Strap-on Slut

When people write to me about pain and discomfort from anal penetration, it’s usually about burning and other painful feelings in their rectum. However, cramping after anal sex is not unusual. In fact, lots of people ask me, “After you did your final scene in The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women video, wasn’t your ass sore?” I tell them the truth: I had so much warm up with fingers and toys, and I was so turned on that my ass was relaxed and open. Even lots of anal penetration over several hours of taping didn’t make me sore, but I did feel some cramps in my abdomen afterwards. Of course, making my video was like the Anal Olympics for me, and I don’t want your girlfriend to have discomfort just from what is, comparatively, a run around the track.

I have a few suggestions. First, don’t fuck on a full stomach. If her body is trying to digest a big meal, then stimulation in the rectum could confuse the natural bowel processes. Similarly, just like you shouldn’t drink gallons of water before you work out your abdominal muscles at the gym, the same holds true for getting plowed. Second, consider using a shorter dildo. The longer the cock, the closer it gets to the lower colon, which for some people may disrupt colonic activity and cause cramps. Finally, as you thrust in and out of her with your cock, air can be pushed inside her rectum and travel upward in the body, giving her cramps, so no more doing her in wind tunnels. Seriously, if her cramping persists, I suggest she consult a physician to see if she is suffering from a gastrointestinal problem.

Martha Stewart Up My Ass

Oct 102001
 


I am interested to know: is it safe to squirt milk up your ass using an ejaculating dildo and then shoot it out your ass again? Is it safe to stick candles up your ass? If so, how many?
—Martha Stewart Up My Ass

It sounds like you’ve been spending a little too much time at the crafts center. Lots of people enjoy using ejaculating dildos in their asses, and I know that some of these squirting dongs have a “recipe” for homemade ejaculate right on the box (which usually consists of condensed milk). Keep in mind that whatever you shoot up your ass can be directly absorbed by your bloodstream, and can potentially make you sick, which is why I never recommend exotic enemas that contain anything beyond plain warm water. So, I say, use plain warm water to be safe; it doesn’t offer the same kind of spooging visual, but it does feel the same.

As for your question about candles up the ass, it reminds me of a series of pictures by fetish photographer Richard Kern of women with lit candles in their bums. While the shots were clever, they were ultimately done for art’s sake, and not really something I can give the thumbs up to for the average person. Candles do not have a flared base, and there is a danger of having one get lost in your ass, unless it’s extremely long. But more importantly, they are hard and waxy, and who wants that in your ass when you can have a flexible, smooth butt plug or dildo that will feel much better and won’t have you shitting out wax shavings afterward?

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