Oct 302011

The first time I tried anal sex was almost six years ago but it was EXTREMELY PAINFUL. I want to try anal again with my current partner. It gets me hot thinking about it with him, but when it comes to doing the actual deed, my butthole it closes up and nothing will get through. Seriously, it locks up tight — not even a finger will fit. I’m at a loss because I don’t know what to do to loosen up.

–Want to Get Loose

You and your ass were traumatized during that first negative experience, and you need to realize that it takes time to heal from any trauma. It sounds like you have a partner you trust and you’re enthusiastic and open about giving anal sex another shot, but your body hasn’t quite caught up to your mind.

I recommend that you very slowly begin to introduce anal play into your solo masturbation routine. Start with external rubbing or a vibrator on the outside only. When you are ready, really take it slowly. Try one finger or the slimmest toy you can find. Give yourself the time and space to explore anal play on your own, so it will take the pressure off doing it with your partner. When you feel comfortable, you can try it with your partner, but you need to take it just as slowly as you did on your own. Make an agreement with your partner that you’ll be the one to call the shots (or call it off if need be). Focus on your desire and trust to help you move past the fear and anxiety and toward pleasure.

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  1. Try starting off slowly, perhaps with a back and leg massage, then teasing your rear with slow and gentle play. There is no rush when approaching this. Then i would suggest trying a combination of cunilingis and analingis as well as some gentle pressure with fingers, Personally i would try supplementing my vaginal sex with a little anal, then slowly increase the rate over a number of sessions. There is no rush when it comes to anal. Maybe trying Things on him/her will relax both of you and ease those nerves. Have fun.

  2. I’ m a 22 year old new to it all i can give a awesome blowjob well i rent a room from a lady she’s in her 50 s one day i her a yell coming from the basement i peeked inside an i saw a man bent over a table an she was whipping him she had his legs spread i could see his asshole she had a butt plug in his mouth she took it an teased his hole he begged her not to , i watched her push it in an wow it looked like it was ripping him open an then she shoved it all the way in an he musted have pasted out , i didn’t see her till she grabbed me by my hair the nexted thing i knew was she ripped my shirt off then my pants tied me on my back pulled my legs back spread wide she lick my pussy an asshole i told her the only thing that’s been in my pussy was a dildo , then she show me a plug it was huge she had me tied so i couldn’t move all i could do was watch she lick an teased my asshole she sat on my face when she pushed that thing in me she told me i had to see it go in i didn’t know i told her i was sorry for peeing then she told me that was my cum

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