Jul 302014
 

partners in passion

MarkandPatricia high resThis Friday at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT on Sex Out Loud radio, Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson return to the show to discuss their new book, Partners In Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-term Love. We’ll talk about non-monogamy, communication, passionate long-term relationships, and the controversy around their recent article on Alternet, “Life-Long Sexual Monogamy Just Isn’t Natural“. They’ll also join in answering listener questions.

Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson are a devoted married couple. They have been creative collaborators – teaching and writing about sexuality and Tantra together – since 1999. Michaels and Johnson are the authors of Partners in Passion (Cleis 2014), Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. Their books have garnered numerous awards: Independent Publishing (IPPY), ForeWord Reviews, and USA Book News Best Books, among others. They are also the creators of the meditation CD set Ananda Nidra: Blissful Sleep. To support the pleasure-positive community in New York, they co-founded Pleasure Salon in 2007. www.MichaelsandJohnson.com

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jul 222014
 

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This week’s guest on Sex Out Loud is Lisa Vandever: a producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television. She seized the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality. Founded in 2003, CineKink recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality and kink in film and television, most visibly through its annual film festival, CineKink NYC. We’ll discuss media representations of alternative sexuality, visual depictions of kink, and the intersections of film and sexuality.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

As co-founder and director of CineKink, an organization that recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality in film and television, Lisa Vandever curates and oversees an annual film festival and touring series, designed to promote and showcase such works. Billing itself as “the kinky film festival,” with offerings drawn from both the independent cinema world and the adult, works presented at CineKink, currently in its eleventh season, range from documentary to drama, comedy to experimental, slightly spicy to quite explicit–and everything in between. A producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television, Vandever was formerly the director of programming for a regional network of public television stations, worked as a development executive for two New York-based independent production companies and was associate producer of the Sundance award-winning feature film, “Songcatcher.”

Seizing the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality, Vandever previously co-founded the New York S/M Film Festival, which ran 2000-2002. Over the years she has also consulted with media distributors on how to best reach sexuality communities, and has advised filmmakers on how to present their works to a wider market. In addition to serving on the board of directors of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, she also volunteered on its media committee, alerting community members to media presentations of alternative sexuality, and encouraging feedback. She has spoken several times on the intersection of film and sexuality at the prestigious SXSW conference, with additional appearances including the International Film Festival Summit, Film Festival Academy, DIY Convention, Sex 2.0, MomentumCon, CatyalystCon and Leather Leadership Conference. She is proud to have once stumped the panel as a guest during a round of “What’s My Fetish?” on the Radio Chick Show …and she probably watches a lot less porn than everyone seems to think she does.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jul 092014
 

candida royalle

candida royalleThis Friday, July 11th at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT on Sex Out Loud, I welcome back author, visionary, and entrepreneur Candida Royalle. Candida will discuss her newest project with award-winning Canadian filmmaker Sheona McDonald, “While You Were Gone: the Untold Story of Candida Royalle“, as well as the unprecedented longevity of the sales of her Femme film line; the three new products from her sex toy line, Natural Contours, coming out in a few months; and how she’s helping release and distribute the work of other women, beginning with filmmaker Petra Joy. Jane Hamilton (aka Veronica Hart) will also join the conversation with Royalle to discuss how they both recently received a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality for their life’s work. After a long and distinguished career in adult movies, working on both sides of the camera, Jane Hamilton now uses her expertise to educate women in the U.S. and China on issues of pleasure, aging and self-esteem.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

In 1984, Candida Royalle came up with the idea to produce adult erotica from a woman’s perspective. The mainstream porn industry scoffed at the idea, claiming “It can’t be done.” This only fuelled her determination.

She knew they were wrong.

Three decades later, her line of 18 features continues to bring in sales revenues and Candida Royalle is hailed as a pioneer in women’s erotica.

As Royalle’s work grew in popularity, she became a media darling, appearing on talk shows from Phil Donahue to Anderson Cooper to Tyra Banks; and written up across the globe – the Times of London, the New York Times, Time Magazine, Glamour, Marie Claire – too many to list.

The international sexology community embraced her work for its egalitarian depiction of “positive sexual role modeling” and she was the first adult film producer to be invited in to membership by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT). She’s become a sought-after speaker, lecturing at the Smithsonian Institute, the American Psychiatric Association’s national conference, the World Congress on Sexology, and many more sexuality conferences and universities including Princeton, Columbia, Wellesley College and New York University.
In June, 2014, Royalle received an honorary Doctorate in Human Sexuality for her life’s work from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.

Building on the success of her films, and her work on female sexual empowerment and pleasure, Royalle partnered with Dutch industrial designer Jandirk Groet, and together they created the Natural Contours® line of high-style, discreet ergonomically designed personal massagers. The line debuted in 1999 and turned the world of sex toys on its head, showcasing vibrators as a “mainstream must-have” and raising the bar for all who followed.

In October 2004, Royalle authored her first book, How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do, (Simon & Schuster/Fireside). In 2006 she launched Femme Chocolat®, created to provide high quality intelligent erotica for the largely underserved non-caucasian market.

As pornography for women and couples grows in popularity, Candida continues to raise the bar. She is currently distributing the work of other feminist pornographers including European director, Petra Joy.

Royalle’s life has never been conventional. The daughter of an accomplished professional jazz drummer, she trained and performed in music, dance and art, attending New York’s High School of Art and Design, Parsons School of Design, and the City University of New York, where she was active in the women’s movement of the late ’60′s and early ’70′s. After a move West to San Francisco, she got involved with some of the original members of the infamous Cockettes, including the late Divine, to create avant garde jazz and theater productions.

In 1974, looking to finance her unconventional lifestyle, she entered the world of erotica as an adult performer and acted in more than twenty feature films. For some, this choice may have been seen as a dead end. But for Candida Royalle, this bold decision would shape the rest of her life.

At every fork in the road, Candida has chosen the path less traveled and, in so doing, has challenged herself, raised the bar and found a new way forward”.

They say “it can’t be done” and she says “just watch me!”.

Jul 022014
 

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Free event and autograph signing with model, reality-star, and entrepreneur Coco 

Good Vibrations, the legendary San Francisco-based retailer that takes pride in providing accurate information on sexuality and toys for grown-ups is proud to announce an in-store, free event and autograph signing with Coco, the reality-star, fitness coach, and model best known for starring with her husband, Ice-T in the reality show Ice Loves Coco.Coco will showcase her new line of sex-toys, Coco-Licious, sign autographs, and provide photo opportunities with fans. Coco’s fashion-forward toy line parallels her many roles and successes, with sleek, flirty styles accentuated with seamless curves and glittery touches.

 

FREE Event, Autograph Signing & Photo Op with Coco
Sunday, June 6 NOON – 2PM
Good Vibrations Lifestyle Boutique
189 Kearny St | San Francisco

*2 blocks from Montgomery St. BART/Muni. Parking: Union Square Garage, St. Mary’s Square

 

ABOUT GOOD VIBRATIONS
Good Vibrations is the San Francisco Bay Area based retailer trusted for more than three decades to provide a comfortable, safe environment for finding quality products, trusted information and educational materials to enhance one’s sex life. Visit online at, goodvibes.com. Please follow us on Twitter @GoodVibesToys

Jun 262014
 

elle chase

On Sex Out Loud this Friday, June 27th, at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT, I’m live with sex educator, writer, and coach Elle Chase aka Lady Cheeky. In addition to running her popular kinky sex blog and hot tumblr site, Chase coordinates sex ed programming at the newly formed Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education and teaches workshops on her own, including her popular “Big, Beautiful Sex: Sex & Body Image” which examines fat-shaming all around us and how it gets in the way of everyone’s sexual confidence and pleasure, no matter what size clothes you wear. We’ll talk sexual communication as well as recommending toys, techniques, and positions.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Sex educator, writer and coach, Elle Chase is best known for her award-winning and highly trafficked sites, www.LadyCheeky.com (NSFW) and www.SmutForSmarties.com. LadyCheeky.com is a curated sensual images blog that celebrates authentic passion, desire, body-positive sensuality and titillating sexual appetite for women and men who like their porn “smarty, arty and tarty.” Last year, Salon.com named LadyCheeky.com one of ‘The Best of Tumblr Porn’ and DatingAdvice.com listed it as one of the ‘Top 10 Kinky Sex Blogs.’ SmutForSmarties.com, is Elle’s sex & body-positive, sex education and feminist, editorial site, where one can find; tales of erotic indulgence, sex-education resources, sex toy reviews, articles & essays all having to do with the world of sexuality. SmutForSmarties.com is proud to have been honored with the title of “BEST SEX BLOG” by the prestigious LA WEEKLY for their Best of the Web 2013.

As a sex educator, Elle received her comprehensive sex education training, and gained a certification from the prestigious San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI). She regularly contributes pieces on sexual health and pleasure to many online magazines including; www.EvolvedWorld.com, www.Kinkly.com, Gasm.org, The Frisky, Fleshbot, DatingAdvice.com, and the recently released Rachel Kramer Bussel erotica anthology “The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories.” Elle (Lady Cheeky) is proud to be on a number of ‘Top Sex Blogger’ lists, including; Kinkly.com’s “Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2013”, and Glamour (Brasil) as one of the ‘Top 100 Sex Blogs in the World.’ Elle has been profiled on TheRumpus and GramPonante.com, quoted in The Huffington Post and Men’s Health UK, and been a guest on highly rated podcasts like; Tristan Taormino’s ‘Sex Out Loud,’ Nerdist Industries: Sex Nerd Sandra Podcast and Playboy Radio’s ‘In Bed with jessica drake.’

Elle is also a speaker who has given talks at universities (most recently at UCLA) has attended panels or co-presented sessions on body image and sexuality at sexuality conferences around the country, including; CatalystCon East and West, 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, and the 46th Annual AASECT Conference. In addition, next year (2015) Elle, along with the legendary Candida Royalle, will be featured in a Canadian Broadcasting Company (CBC) documentary called ’Inside Her Sex’ by Sheona McDonald, about women, sex, and shame. Elle is also the Education Coordinator & Lead Sex Educator at the newly formed, Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education which holds many classes and workshops a month, on sexuality, sexual health and sexual lifestyles for the community at large.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jun 172014
 

diane and jacob

This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT, Diane and Jacob Anderson-Minshall discuss their recently released book, Queerly Beloved: A Love Story Across Genders, a memoir of how their relationship survived Jacob’s gender transition. Their story has been the subject of numerous articles (including in The New York Times) and radio shows (like NPR’s Story Corp). They’ll discuss their personal journey along with ideas around queer identity, long-term relationships, and society concepts of gender. This show is live and we’ll be answering listener questions.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Diane and Jacob Anderson-Minshall are co-conspirators in life and love. They co-author the Blind Eye mystery series (Blind Curves, Blind Leap, and the Lambda Literary Award finalist Blind Faith). Their memoir, Queerly Beloved, is about how their relationship survived Jacob’s gender transition. Their story has been the subject of numerous articles (including in The New York Times) and radio shows (like NPR’s Story Corp).

Diane is an award winning journalist and editor. She is the editor at large of The Advocate magazine, and editor in chief of HIV Plus magazine. She penned the erotic-thriller, Punishment With Kisses, and her writing has appeared in dozens of publications and anthologies. She also previously served as editor in chief of Curve magazine. Honored by LA Pride in 2013, this year Diane received a Western Publishing Association Maggie Award for leadership.

Jacob has written for numerous LGBT and feminist publications. For four years, he penned the nationally-syndicated weekly column, TransNation. He later produced and co-hosted the radio show, Gender Blender. His writings have appeared on Advocate.com and been included in anthologies like Men Speak Out: Views on Gender, Sex, and Power, Trans People in Love, and Portland Queer. Jacob recently served on the board of Lambda Literary Foundation.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jun 152014
 

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Sex-Positive Retailer Helps Patrons “Harness” Pleasure

Good Vibrations, the legendary San Francisco-based retailer that takes pride in providing accurate information on sexuality and toys for grown-ups, says, “Harness your pleasure! Strap it on!” Good Vibrations celebrates “International Strap-On Week” June 16th – June 22nd with free classes, in-store and online promotions, and an entertaining #straponselfie social media contest.

Who Has Strap-on Sex?
Strap-on sex can be enjoyed by people of all genders. Most recently, Good Vibrations has seen a rise in the number of heterosexual couples who are interested in exploring sex where the man is on the receiving end of the strap-on. Cisgender male penetration can be an intimate and incredibly enjoyable experience especially if the prostate is stimulated safely, as highlighted in The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. Good Vibrations has led the way in sexual education and promoting not only lesbian and transgender strap-on use, but also the act of “pegging,” made famous by the Bend Over Boyfriend series starring Good Vibrations’ staff Sexologist, Dr. Carol Queen.

Events & Promotions
Good Vibrations celebrates International Strap-On Week with online and in-store events. On Wednesday, June 18th, a Sex Educator/Sales Associate will lead a free Humpday Happy Hour workshop on Strap-on Sex at Good Vibrations’ Polk Street store. Store shoppers who want to strap one on can enjoy 50% off a Pleasure Works™ Silicone dildo with the purchase of any harness retailing at $50 or more.

Online visitors can read up on strap-on topics such as “How to Choose a Harness,” “How to Choose a Dildo,” and “How to Have Strap-on Sex with a Male Partner.” Strap-on Harness Comparison Charts help show the differences in a side-by-side view. Good Vibrations prides itself on educating customers so that they can make an informed purchase and find the best toy for them. Online shoppers will also enjoy a 20% discount on any strap-on dildo with the purchase of a harness during Strap-On Week.

#straponselfie Contest
In the age of the selfie, why not strap it and snap it? Good Vibrations, in the spirit of light-hearted fun, encourages the community to participate in our first ever #straponselfie contest. Participants should take a selfie photo while wearing a strap-on harness and share via Twitter and Instagram using @goodvibestoys #straponselfie #strapweek. Contest judges include Lauren Marie Fleming, A.K.A. Queerie Bradshaw from FriskyFeminist.com, the infamous Jiz Lee, genderqueer porn performer, Sophia St. James, award-winning porn performer and burlesque star, and porn performer Q, best known for his roles in the Crash Pad Series. Official rules, exceptional prizes, and example #straponselfie photos can be found on the Good Vibes Blog.

Jun 152014
 

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Dusk! – the first and only adult TV product where content must meet the approval of a panel of women – set to launch this June in the U.S.

After delivering highly successful content throughout Europe, Holland-based Dusk!  will provide select programming to cable TV systems in the U.S. and U.S. territories beginning this month. Dusk! is set to deliver ‘Porna’ to its customers via Video On Demand, reaching nearly 30 million subscribers by mid- summer.

Dusk!’s unique approach to explicit adult content appeals to a growing market of female adult TV viewers. Dusk! has created an online panel (www.duskpanel.com)  of identity verified women, made up of wives, mothers, career women and professionals, who view an array of films and scenes provided by the panel. Programming is then based on the honest and candid opinions of these women. Dusk! has provided definition to this specific kind of female-friendly adult programming by introducing the term, ‘Porna’, meaning porn for women. Porna instantly separates this programming from conventional male focused adult content.

Says Martijn Broersma, co-founder of Dusk!, “We are thrilled to take our first steps into the U.S.  Since the start of Dusk! in 2009, we’ve received a lot of requests from U.S. women who would like to experience Porna on television. From now on, they can find our top rated films on broadcast cable VOD which surely is wonderful. For women – chosen by women”. Candida Royalle, American adult star and director, recognized worldwide as having pioneered ‘porn for women’, has been a fierce supporter of Dusk! since its beginnings. “I knew it was only a matter of time before Dusk! made its way to the U.S.,” says Royalle. “They work hard to find the movies and scenes women want to watch. And they don’t settle!”

Jun 112014
 

logan levkoff

Logan Levkoff, PhD, sexuality educator, sexologist, and author talks to me this Friday on Sex Out Loud about designing sex ed programs, becoming an AASECT certified sex educator, and empowering children, adolescents, and adults to embrace their sexuality and challenge the impractical, and often unhealthy, messages that they are exposed to. She’ll talk about her latest book, “Got Teens? The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media, and Other Adolescent Realities” and answer questions from listeners on how to navigate conversations with teens and the best ways to create sexually healthy adults.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Dr. Logan Levkoff is an internationally recognized expert on sexuality and relationships. She encourages honest conversation about sexuality and the role it plays in our culture. Dr. Levkoff makes it clear that sex and sexuality are not “dirty” words; she works to create an environment where people feel comfortable asking (and getting answers to) their most personal questions. Dr. Levkoff empowers children, adolescents, and adults to embrace their sexuality and challenge the impractical, and often unhealthy, messages that they are exposed to. As a thought leader in the field of human sexuality, Dr. Levkoff is a regular contributor to television shows including Good Morning America, The Today Show, The CBS Early Show, Nightline, Fox News Channel, and CNN. She is also the host of CafeMom’s show, Mom Ed: In the Bedroom. Dr. Levkoff is the author of three books: Got Teens? The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media, and Other Adolescent Realities (Seal Press, 2014), Third Base Ain’t What it Used to Be: What Your Kids are Learning About Sex Today and How to Teach Them to Become Sexually Healthy Adults (Open Road Media, May 2012), and How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You (Good in Bed Publications, October 2011), She is also a contributor to the anthology, Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades (BenBella Books, November 2012) and ToughLove (Simon & Schuster, 2014). In addition to her own work, Dr. Levkoff is a trusted source for many publications and blogs for The Huffington Post. For over a decade, Dr. Levkoff has been teaching groups of all ages and from a variety of backgrounds. She has designed and implemented sexuality education programs, faculty development, and parent education in many secular and religious independent schools, universities, medical schools, and community organizations. Dr. Levkoff’s work with teens and parents has been profiled in numerous publications, including The New York Times. She is also on the faculty of the University of Michigan School of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program. Dr. Levkoff has been a spokesperson for Trojan, Trojan Vibrations, Trojan Lubricants and serves on the Trojan Sexual Health Advisory Council. She has also served as a spokesperson for The Art of Shaving, a joint project between Starbucks and Yahoo! Personals, Bertolli, Tupperware, and Sealy.

Logan Levkoff is an AASECT certified sex educator and has served on the AASECT Board of Directors. She received her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, Marriage, and Family Life Education from New York University and an M.S. in Human Sexuality Education and a B.A. in English from the University of Pennsylvania. She lives in New York City with her husband, son, and daughter.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jun 042014
 

kd&allie

girlsexcover-lowresIf you are a fan of queer sex books, then you already know (and love) the work of kd diamond, founder and art director of Salacious Magazine. Diamond has illustrated Tristan Taormino’s Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation and Ultimate Guide to Kink, as well as the books Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation, Playing Well with Others, and the Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. This week Friday, June 6th, at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT on Sex Out Loud, hear my interview with Diamond talking about becoming an artist, making cartoons sexy, and the latest project from Diamond and Allison Moon: Girl Sex 101, a road trip in a book.

kd diamond is a queer cartoonist and illustrator, artist and media-maker, and sea creature nerd. She’s the founder and art director of Salacious Magazine, a queer feminist anti-racist sex rag that aims to stimulate your genitals and challenge your brain, and the illustrator of close to a dozen books about sex and gender, including but not limited to The Ultimate Guide to Kink, Partners In Pleasure, and The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. Diamond is currently hard at work on the layout and illustrations for Girl Sex 101 (girlsex101.com), a collaboration with Allison Moon (talesofthepack.com) that combines expert advice, fictional narrative, and educational segments with illustrations to create an ultimate road map for girls to have mind-blowing sex with other girls.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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