Tristan’s Books


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Feminist_Porn_coverThe Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure

Feminist Press at CUNY, 2013 |  Amazon | Kindle | Spanish Edition | German Edition Part 1 | German Edition Part 2

The Feminist Porn Book, edited by Tristan Taormino, Celine Parrenas-Shimizu, Constance Penley, and Mireille Miller-Young, brings together for the first time writings by feminists in the adult industry and research by feminist porn scholars. This book investigates not only how feminists understand pornography, but also how feminists do porn—that is, direct, act in, produce, and consume one of the world’s most lucrative and growing industries. With original contributions by Susie Bright, Candida Royalle, Betty Dodson, Nina Hartley, Buck Angel, Lynn Comella, Jane Ward, Ariane Cruz, Kevin Heffernan, and more, The Feminist Porn Book updates the arguments of the porn wars of the 1980s, which sharply divided the women’s movement, and identifies pornography as a form of expression and labor in which women and racial and sexual minorities produce power and pleasure. For more about this book, see its official website,


A Girl’s Guide To Taking Over the World:
Writings from the Girl Zine Revolution

Co-editor with Karen Green
St. Martin’s Press, 1997 | Buy from Amazon


50 shades50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM

Cleis Press, 2013 | AmazonKindle

50 Shades of Kink is the perfect book for anyone who’s been inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey, is curious about kink, wants more information, or is just beginning to explore it. 50 Shades of Kink is a practical guide that moves beyond the fantasy and gives practical advice and techniques based on real world experience. You’ll learn techniques and creative ideas for bondage, spanking, flogging, sensation play, and rough sex and how to eroticize power, cultivate deeper connections and incorporate kink into your sex life.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink

Cleis Press, 2012 | Amazon | Kindle | Italian Edition

The Ultimate Guide to Kink is the first major guide to BDSM in a generation—a bold and sexy collection of essays that run the gamut from expert how-to tutorials to provocative essays that delve into complex questions about desire, power, and pleasure. The book brings together diverse voices from the kink community in an unprecedented way: each chapter is written by a different sexuality/BDSM educator. Divided into two sections, the first section features thorough, thoughtful pieces—on everything from flogging to bondage—packed with techniques and beautifully illustrated with original images from artist Katie Diamond. The second section is dedicated to role-playing fantasies and personal manifestos. From age play to masochism, these chapters cover some of the edgiest, most taboo and controversial elements of kink in depth. The Ultimate Guide to Kink features the expertise of renowned educators writing passionately on their favorite subjects, including Patrick Califia, Midori, Laura Antoniou, Barbara Carrellas, Lee Harrington, Jack Rinella, Lolita Wolf, Madison Young, Hardy Haberman, Felice Shays, Ignacio Rivera, Sarah Sloane, Mollena Williams, FifthAngel, and Edge. It will educate, inspire, and challenge both newcomers to the world of kink and experienced BDSM players.

The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation

Quiver Books, 2011 | Amazon | Kindle

“Your one-stop shop for G-spot stimulation and female ejaculation. Truly, a fabulous book.” —Sonia Borg, Ph.D., M.A., M.P.H., author of Oral Sex She’ll Never Forget and Oral Sex He’ll Never Forget

“This is the must-read book for any woman interested in discovering the secrets of her G-spot. Tristan will teach you how to find and play with the spot for your ultimate pleasure.” —Jordan LaRousse and Samantha Sade, authors of Penis Genius and Clitology

Proper stimulation of the G-spot can yield incredible orgasms and the unique and powerful experience of female ejaculation. However, unlike the clitoris, which is easily visible, the G-spot can be tricky to locate and takes skill to work it in just the right way. The Secrets of G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation demystifies this controversial erogenous zone with the latest techniques, positions, and toys for harnessing the power of the G-spot for incredible pleasure. Leading sex educator Tristan Taormino presents the best positions, couple-play techniques, and solo exercises for maximizing G-spot stimulation, achieving female ejaculation, and having intense, full-body orgasms. Step-by-step instructions for both men and women show how to give and receive mind-blowing sensations, create bed-shaking climaxes, and experience one of the wonders of female sexual pleasure—female ejaculation.

The Big Book of Sex Toys

Quiver Books, 2010 | Amazon | Kindle

“Well, if there’s anyone you can and should trust, it’s Tristan Taormino…Not at least thumbing through this book for new ideas is almost as stupid as buying someone a teddy bear on Valentine’s Day.” —The Stranger

The Big Book of Sex Toys is meant to introduce the reader to every kind of sex toy, and it does this extremely well.” —Hey Epiphora

The Big Book of Sex Toys is a lush book that has beautiful photographs of every sex toy under the sun: 250 luscious pages of very beautiful pictures of the love swings, dildos, rabbits, bullets, strap ons, anal stimulators, cock rings and so much more. It’s like the Encyclopedia Britannica of sex toys. Tristan has indexed and archived every sex toy imaginable and included her own take on each of the toys, how they are manufactured, and the materials they are made with. And, trust me, Tristan knows her stuff!” —Better Sex Radio

“This book is visually stunning with up close and personal color photography of nearly every sex toy that you can imagine, but this book goes beyond pretty pictures! It features smart and easily digestible information to aid with picking just the right toys to broaden your sex life alone or with partners.” —Femme Galaxy

Are you looking to take your sex life from everyday to extraordinary? The Big Book of Sex Toys covers the hottest hardware for taking your sex life to the next level. Whether you’re looking to liven up solo sex, hit hot spots more easily, give your partner new sensations or add new twists to classic positions, inside you’ll find every toy imaginable from mild to wild. Sexy photos take the guesswork out how to integrate toys with positions, oral sex, and hand moves as well as how to get in and out of strap-ons, slings, and swings like a pro. Renowned author, sex expert, and adult film director Tristan Taormino has put together the ultimate guide to choosing, buying, and getting the most sexual satisfaction from your sex toys. Whether you’re a curious novice or an advanced aficionado, The Big Book of Sex Toys offers recommendations and advice for the top toys in every category from vibrators to butt plugs to bondage and tells you everything you need to know but were too shy to ask.

The Anal Sex Position Guide

Quiver Books, 2009  |  Amazon  |  Kindle  | French Edition | Polish Edition

“This book is more than just an Ass-a Sutra (if you will): more than just a picture book of butt sex positions, The Anal Sex Position Guide is a full on tutorial discussing everything a couple needs to know before venturing into anal play—whether they’re exploring his ass or hers, using a penis or a strap-on. Anatomy, safer sex, communication, lubrication, and sex toys are all thoroughly discussed… Whether you’d like to dip your toe into the waters of butt play, or are looking to spice up an already active anal sex life, The Anal Sex Position Guide is an absolute must buy.” —Fleshbot

“Sometimes a little extra nudge in the way of practical advice and men and women with bodies made of fantasy is what you need to try something new. And where ever you are in your anal sex escapades, The Anal Sex Position Guide is sure to offer you some useful information that is approachable and classy.” —Undressed Reviews

“Overall, I think this is a great intro to butt sex book. It covers what I find to be one of the most common questions I’m asked about anal from anal newbies: “What position should I try?” I think this is also an excellent book for people looking to try anal the first time, or who are new to it.” —Viviane’s Sex Carnival

Often considered the most intimate (and intimidating!) of sexual activities, anal sex is gaining mainstream acceptance as the ultimate in alternative intercourse. This guide takes the fear factor out of anal sex and shows heterosexual couples the best positions for pain-free pleasure. Introductory material which will discuss how to experience anal sex safely and pleasurably, hygiene and safety, bringing up the topic with a partner, and the use of sex toys and accessories. Subsequent chapters will be position-specific: positions for first-timers; positions to spice up your repertoire; and advanced positions.

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women

Cleis Press, 2006, 1998  |  Amazon  |  Kindle  |  Italian Edition  | French Edition

Winner of a 1998 Firecracker Book Award Winner
Amazon’s #1 Bestseller in Women’s Sex Instruction (1998)

“The bible of female anal sex.” —Salon

“A book that’s long overdue! Informative, sexy, and inspirational.” —Betty Dodson, Ph.D., author of Sex for One

“An outstanding example of what I think a modern ‘sex manual’ should be: it covers a topic that the author knows in depth on a personal level, it is factually accurate and conveys all the information the readers might need, it manages to capture the pleasure and passion which the author finds in her chosen subject, it provides guides to more advanced topics for more advanced and/or adventurous readers, and it contains a solid resource guide for folks who wish to learn more. An essential how-to for beginners and a valuable reference for enthusiasts.” —Cathy Winks, coauthor of The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex

“America’s anal sex guru.” —Penthouse

“Tristan Taormino is the go-to girl on anal sex.” —Time Out New York

“For excellent, road-tested, woman-friendly advice on all aspects of anal sex, look no further than the sexy and sex-positive Tristan Taormino and her book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.” —Bitch Magazine

“Written for women, it covers all possible combinations of couplings, so whether you’re the butt-er or the butt-ee, if you’ve only fantasized about it, or even if you’re one of the merely curious, this non-judgmental self help book is easy to read, educational, and caring.” —Bust

Revised and updated throughout, including all-new chapters specifically for beginners and for women giving anal pleasure to men, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women is a comprehensive and creative guide to anal pleasure. Tristan Taormino offers the kind of informed reassurance that can encourage even an absolute beginner to explore this nerve-rich part of the body, either alone or with a partner of any gender. Anal sex enthusiasts may need no encouragement, but will welcome Taormino’s sense of adventure and her detailed discussions of toys, fantasy play, and positions. Beginning by dispelling common myths about anal eroticism, Taormino goes on to illustrate anatomy, give tips on building trust and communicating desires, and provide reliable, easy-to-understand information on safety, preparation, hygiene, and much more. This new edition has been substantially expanded and revised to include new information on masturbation, anal health, BDSM and anal sex, and many other topics. In a new feature, Taormino answers actual reader questions.

Down and Dirty Sex Secrets

Regan Books/HarperCollins, 2003, 2001  |  Amazon  |  Kindle  |  Audio Book  |  German Edition

First published in hardcover as Pucker Up: A Hands-on Guide to Ecstatic Sex
Barnes and Noble’s Best Books of 2001

“A veritable buffet of human sexuality…noted Generation-X sexpert Tristan Taormino breaks all the rules and deals frankly, boldly and honestly with that most taboo of all subjects: Sex…Taormino’s style is smooth and flowing—in fact, this book isn’t so much like a didactic manifesto on human sexuality, as it is sitting down with a best friend and exchanging sex tips…No matter how good you think your sex life is, this book is bound to give you a few ideas on how to make it even better.” —Lambda Book Report

“Taormino combines know-how, enthusiasm, practicalities, compassion, and humor to spread the joy of [sex]…Taormino inspires confidence that all things are possible, not to mention desirable.” —Publishers Weekly

“Perfect for the adventurous novice, it offers breezy, up-to-the-minute, accurate info for those looking to expand their horizons horizontally. A must for any well-rounded sex library.” —Nina Hartley

“Tristan Taormino’s latest book is an essential ‘How to Fuck’ book. We’re not talking about romance, we’re talking about unbridled passion!” —Playgirl

“In Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, Taormino teaches would-be sexual athletes how to be great in bed with a perfectly blended stew of intelligence, kink and infectious enthusiasm.” —AVN

True Lust: Adventures in Sex, Porn and Perversion

Cleis Press, 2002  |  Amazon  |  Kindle

“[The essays in True Lust] cover a range of sexual topics from lap dances to kink. They are all extremely well-written and give an overview of many sexual subcultures and practices, like a sexual buffet.” —Rachel Kramer Bussel in Hype Magazine

“Tristan really tells all and holds nothing back. She hasn’t just read about these sexual acts, fantasies and fetishes, she lived them out and in True Lust she tells us everything we want to know… She’s kind of a role model for us, showing us that whatever our fetish or kink is, we are not alone, there are others out there for us to experience these desires with. She’s tried so many things, showing us that you only live once so don’t be afraid to indulge. And yes, she has her limits and she’s also pushed the envelope a couple of times which has broadened her outlook on the way she has sex and what she likes to do.” —All Sex Reviews

“Covering everything from transporn to diaper fetishes, Taormino’s long-running “Pucker Up” column is rivaled only by Dan Savage for its frankness and compulsive readability, so check your timidity at the door.” —Flavorpill

“Taormino is a hands-on guide, always thoughtful and insightful she puts herself on the line instead of acting as a remote expert. This girl has such inspiring chutzpah! Her best writing is when she is challenging herself, for example in her essay about learning how to ejaculate, which proves that even those at the top of their game have more to learn when it comes to sex. Also enjoyable are her analyses of the porn industry, refreshingly straight talk about fantasyland…True Lust is essential reading for anyone who likes sex.” —Gaydar Nation

“She’s irresistible—an underground icon from coast to coast.” —Adult Video News

“What’s it like to be Tristan Taormino? Read True Lust and you’ll have a better perspective of who she is and what it’s like to be a Perky Sex Diva for an entire generation. All the essays and commentary are relatively short but each one tells a story of sexual growth and exploration.” —Adult Web Life

Tristan Taormino has dished out sex advice to Howard Stern, Dick Clark, and the Playboy Advisor. Now the best-selling author collects 70 hand-picked reports on everything from lap dancing to group masturbation to lesbian pornography. In these essays, Taormino combines explicit passions with an outspoken sexual candor that shocks and amuses readers. Taormino, an award-winning adult film star, is the author of “Pucker Up,” a column that appears weekly in The Village Voice.


Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

Cleis Press, 2008  |  Amazon  | Audio BookKindle  |  Spanish Edition

“This is the book you want to read if you’re looking for a voice that is balanced, sensitive and sensible when tackling the thorny question of sexual boundaries in love relationships. Opening Up is sure to open up your mind.” —Esther Perel, author of Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

“Taormino cuts through all the utopian theory and gets down to what people really need: the nuts and bolts of how open relationships work. I want to give Opening Up to everyone I know who asks, ‘How do you do it?’” —Susie Bright, series editor of Best American Erotica

“A luscious smorgasbord of non-monogamy as an opportunity for breaking free of one-way models of sex and love. Taormino’s discussion is remarkably nuanced and balanced–and encourages readers to proceed with their eyes wide open.” —Jack Morin, PhD, author of The Erotic Mind

“Bold advice for explorers of open relationships. Comprehensive, clear, and grounded in practical realities, this book is one of the best to come along in a long time!” —Deborah Anapol, Ph.D., author of Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits

“Courageous, stunningly thorough and inspiring. If you need a pathfinding guide for evolving your relationships, this is it.” —Daphne Rose Kingma, author of The Future of Love

“If you are looking for an everyday, run-of-the-mill relationship guide, this introduction to the world of nonmonogamy is probably not for you. Village Voice sex columnist Taormino, who has authored or edited a handful of guides on physical relationships, sheds light on the various types of open relations and shares tips on how these relationships can most successfully be maintained. Those put off by the book’s premise shouldn’t be: this is not so much an espousal of nonmonogamous relationships as it is a comprehensive guide to the phenomenon, offering numerous firsthand accounts from those involved in open relationships.” —Library Journal

“Superbly informative, sympathetic and literate.” —Dr. Gloria Brame, author of Different Loving

“Tristan Taormino is the logical author to tackle this topic from a fresh perspective…This extensive guide will be of interest to anyone who can visualize a relationship that is more open then the standard monogamous coupling.” —Curve

“In her latest book, the award-winning author and sex educator takes a clear-eyed look at the controversial topic.” —The Boston Phoenix

“Tristan Taormino is an amazing writer and very thoughtful, humorous, and hits all the right notes in putting together a book that makes you feel better about your decisions about opening up your relationship when so much of society is designed to make us feel bad about that decision.” —Life on the Swingset

“Prolific sexpert Tristan Taormino’s most recent offering focuses on relationships which are open to others. If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to involve new people in your previously monogamous coupling, this guide is required reading before you start.” —Eden Fantasys

Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.


Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica

Cleis Press, 2011
2012 Lambda Literary Award Winner

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“Take Me There is a smokin’ hot sampling of sassy smart smut that took me where I’d never been before in print—this is the most gender-diverse erotica collection I’ve ever seen anywhere.” —Susan Stryker, Ph.D. Director, Institute for LGBT Studies, University of Arizona

“Finally, a book that has something for everyone whose gender and sexual fantasies don’t fit into the usual boxes. I loved it. WOOF!!” —Buck Angel® Pioneering Filmmaker, Educator, and Advocate

“As someone who is androgynous-identified, it feels positively monumental to hold in my hands an erotica anthology where trans* desire is not the token, but the topic! In making our desires visible—within our own communities and beyond—our gender expressions, our fantasies, our very lives are made real. Take Me There brings us HERE.” —Jiz Lee, GenderQueer Porn Star

“There are multiple theories of desire out there; many histories of sexuality; lots of studies of sexual practices, but, until now, there were few accounts, fictional or otherwise of the multiple ways that queer people eroticize gender variant bodies. This collection is hot and steamy, boiling with new lust, bubbling with new languages of desire, new ways of naming the body, different modes of telling each other “I want you.” Ask what you need from this book, it will take you there. I promise.” —Jack Halberstam, author of Female Masculinity

“Finally, a satisfying resource that more of us can offer, with a sly smile, when they ask us what exactly we *do* with one another.” —Scott Turner Schofield, author of Two Truths and a Lie

“Tristan Taormino found my ‘V’ spot and werqued it.” —Justin Vivian Bond, author of Tango

In mainstream media, the erotic identities, sex lives, and fantasies of transgender and genderqueer people are often oversimplified, sensationalized, or invisible. Take Me There is an erotica collection unlike any other that celebrates the pleasure, heat, and diversity of transgender and genderqueer sexualities. The power of seeing and being seen is a central theme in the anthology; it’s not simply about passing or not passing (an idea often explored with transgender characters), but about being acknowledged and desired in a sexual context.

The book takes you from San Francisco to Israel, from heartache to lust, from stranger sex to a 10 year anniversary, from ballet shoes to butt plug bondage tables, from fumbling teenagers to leatherclad bears, from MTF and FTM—and in between and beyond.

Featuring renowned authors Kate Bornstein (Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation), Patrick Califia (Speaking Sex to Power), S. Bear Bergman (Butch is a Noun), Ivan Coyote (Missed Her), Julia Serano (Whipping Girl), Laura Antoniou (The Marketplace), Helen Boyd (My Husband Betty), Rachel Kramer Bussel (Gotta Have It), Toni Amato (Pinned Down by Pronouns), Alicia E. Goranson (Supervillianz), filmmaker Tobi Hill-Meyer, musician Rahne Alexander, singer/songwriter Shawna Virago, bloggers Andrea Zanin and Sinclair Sexsmith, and more.

Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch/Femme Erotica

Cleis Press, 2010

2011 Lambda Literary Award Winner
2011 NLA-I Samois Anthology Award Winner

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Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica

Cleis Press, 2007

Amazon  |  Kindle  |  Audio Book

Hot Lesbian Erotica

Cleis Press, 2005

Amazon  |  Audio Book  |  Kindle

Best of the Best Lesbian Erotica

Cleis Press, 2000

Amazon  |  Audio Book  |  Kindle

Best of Best Lesbian Erotica 2

Cleis Press, 2005


Best Lesbian Erotica 2009

selected & introduced by Joan Larkin
Cleis Press, 2009

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WhenSheWasGoodCover_10When She Was Good (re-issue of Best Lesbian Erotica 2008)

selected & introduced by Ali Liebegott
Cleis Press, 2008

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Best Lesbian Erotica 2007

selected & introduced by Emma Donoghue
Cleis Press, 2007

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strippeddown_Stripped Down (re-issue of Best Lesbian Erotica 2006)

selected & introduced by Eileen Myles
Cleis Press, 2006

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Best Lesbian Erotica 2005

selected & introduced by Felice Newman
Cleis Press, 2005

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Best Lesbian Erotica 2004

selected & introduced by Michelle Tea
Cleis Press, 2004

2004 Lambda Literary Award Winner

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Best Lesbian Erotica 2003

selected & introduced by Cheryl Clarke
Cleis Press, 2003

2003 Lambda Literary Award Winner

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Best Lesbian Erotica 2002

selected & introduced by Amber Hollibaugh
Cleis Press, 2002

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Best Lesbian Erotica 2001

selected & introduced by Pat Califia
Cleis Press, 2001

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Best Lesbian Erotica 2000

selected & introduced by Joan Nestle
Cleis Press, 2009

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Best Lesbian Erotica 1999

selected & introduced by Chrystos
Cleis Press, 1999

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Best Lesbian Erotica 1998

selected & introduced by Jenifer Levin
Cleis Press, 1998

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Best Lesbian Erotica 1997

selected & introduced by Jewelle Gomez
Cleis Press, 1997

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Best Lesbian Erotica 1996

selected & introduced by Heather Lewis
Cleis Press, 1996

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Ritual Sex

Co-editor with David Aaron Clark
Masquerade Books, 1996 | Buy from Amazon