I have discussed with my wife the possibility of having anal sex. After a little discussion, she said she would try it. We agreed that if it hurt her too much, I would stop. My problem is I have my penis pierced with an ampallang piercing; that’s a horizontal piercing through the head of my penis. I would probably get stuck in her if I did not pull out before ejaculation, and then I’d lose my erection. Any suggestions?
–Pierced in Pennsylvania
Your question raises many more questions. How old is your ampallang piercing? Most piercers recommend an initial healing time of 8-10 weeks, and say it will be fully healed at 6-12 months. In the first couple weeks, erection or orgasm can cause the piercing to bleed. If yours is fully healed, my next question is, how big is the jewelry? You make it sound huge by saying you’re going to get stuck, and, if it is in fact bigger than about 10 gauge, that would be cause for concern. I have not heard of people with average-sized ampallang piercings getting stuck.
Although I do think you should be concerned that your piercing may tear the delicate tissue that lines the rectum or cause your partner pain. I recommend you wear a condom to prevent possible injury or discomfort. Again, all penis piercings with average-sized jewelry should not interfere with the safe use of condoms. Use a condom with a receptacle end to fit comfortably over the jewelry, and lubricate the inside of the condom as well as the jewelry itself to reduce friction.