Jun 072002
 

My girlfriend and I have been having anal sex for about four or five months. In fact, the first time I penetrated her was anally. After that, it’s been a once-in-a-while ritual where I get to have the pleasure of making love to her sexy ass. I enjoy it very much and she doesn’t mind letting me have my way, even though she says she receives little to no pleasure from it. We use plenty of lube and always warm up with shallow and slow penetration, deep breathing and lots of communication. We now do it now once every three weeks to a month, which is kind of my problem. I’d like to do it more often, but not too much.

I have two questions for you: How much anal sex do you think is healthy for a couple that wants to have a nice balance between the three major forms of sex (oral, vaginal and anal)? What kind of ways can I pleasure her when I do her in the ass? How can I make her come from anal sex?

–Booty Lover

There is no mathematical equation to determine “a nice balance,” nor is there any common recommendation about how much of one kind of sex a healthy couple should have. Sexuality and our particular practices are extremely unique to the individuals involved, and therefore so are our preferences and how often or little we indulge in them. I say if both you and your wife are content with how much sex you’re having, and the kinds of sex you’re having, then why mess with a good thing?

But it does sound like you’d like to add more anal sex to the menu, and your second question is the key to getting there. Because if you start to give her tremendous pleasure while you’re fucking her in the ass, then chances are she’ll want to do it more often. There are a number of ways to get a woman off while you’re fucking her ass. You can play with her clit while you penetrate her, or if the position you’re in makes that too difficult, encourage her to jerk herself off or even use a small vibrator. Clitoral stimulation combined with anal penetration is one of the ways some women can orgasm. If she likes double penetration, try putting a few fingers in her pussy or a slim dildo while you’re in her ass; this often increases the sensations in both places. Experiment with different positions in order to find her G-spot. Many women experience indirect G-spot stimulation through anal sex. You want to angle fingers, toys, or your cock toward the front of her body to find and stimulate the spot. Also, ask her what she’d like to do to make it feel not just better, but fantastic. Together, you can discover what will turn you both on.

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