Dec 182013
 

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This week’s Sex Out Loud, premiering on December 20th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET, is an erotica show with a twist – first we have Matthew Stillman, author of Genesis Deflowered, a new book in the genre of Biblical Erotica in Elizabethan English. He’ll discuss what inspired the idea and will share a passage to make you rethink some of those Christian traditions. Then we welcome back erotica writer Alison Tyler who will share from the holiday-themed collections she has compiled and edited. She brings along writer Thomas Roche who will share some steamy Yuletide cheer as well.

This week’s show is LIVE, which means we’ll be giving away a Sportsheets prize to a lucky fan. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air – you could be chosen to win!

Matthew Stillman, born & bred New Yorker, ran program development at Food Network for many years. He conceived of & produced the film “The End of Poverty?” that premiered at the Cannes Film Festival & went to 40 film festivals. He spoke at the UN four times about the film. A lifetime with literature, inner spiritual work from different traditions, creativity & play, he has written “Genesis Deflowered” in a genre that he may have just made up – Biblical Erotica written in Elizabethan English.

Called a “Trollop with a Laptop” by East Bay Express, a “Literary Siren” by Good Vibrations, and “over caffeinated” by her favorite local barista, Alison Tyler has made being naughty a full-time job. Her sultry short stories have appeared in more than 100 anthologies including Sex for America, Liaisons, and Bedding Down. In all things important, she remains faithful to her partner of 17 years, but she still can’t choose just one perfume. Find her 24/7 at alisontyler.blogspot.com.

Thomas S. Roche has been writing professionally since the 1980s. He’s written more than 400 published short stories in many genres, including science fiction, fantasy, horror and crime-noir, but is best known for his work in short erotic fiction. His most recent book is The Panama Laugh, a paramilitary science fiction zombie apocalypse about viral media, for which he was a finalist for the Bram Stoker Award from the Horror Writers Association. Roche served as the Marketing Manager at Good Vibrations, and has worked for Alt.com, The Eros Guide and Eros Zine, TinyNibbles.com, Gothic.net, GettingIt.com. Now, he’s publisher and editor in chief of the e-book erotica publisher Deception Press. He recently celebrated the twentieth year of with the nonprofit San Francisco Sex Information, for which he is currently an instructor on the organization’s Training Staff that trains new volunteers and other community health professionals, advocates and activists.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Oct 082013
 

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The prolific erotica writer and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel is back on Sex Out Loud this week! Bussel has edited some of the best-selling erotica books in the business and she also edits New York Magazine’s Sex Diaries columns. She’ll discuss her two latest collections, Baby Got Back: Anal Erotica and The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories. I will also chat with Matie Fricker, co-owner of Self Serve Sexuality Resource and Self Serve Toys in New Mexico, about the recent successful legal ruling in favor of the community run porn festival, Pornotopia.

This week’s show is live, so find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air!

Rachel Kramer Bussel (rachelkramerbussel.com) is the editor of over 50 anthologies, including The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories, Baby Got Back: Anal Erotica, Twice the Pleasure: Bisexual Women’s Erotica, Cheeky Spanking Stories, Serving Him: Sexy Stories of Submission, Gotta Have It; Best Bondage Erotica 2013 and Best Sex Writing 2013. She’s written erotica about Monica Lewinsky, washing dishes, boxing, an oral sex restaurant, French fries, fisting, bukkake, face slapping, snow, ice, hot wax, a spanking machine and many other topics. She writes widely about sex, dating, books and pop culture. She blogs at Lusty Lady (http://lustylady.blogspot.com) and Tweets @raquelita and teaches erotic writing workshops at colleges, conferences and sex toy stores. Upcoming workshops include Albuquerque, Austin, Portland, Maine and New York. She lives in Red Bank, New Jersey.

Matie Fricker is the co-owner of Self Serve Sexuality Resource in Albuquerque, New Mexico & selfservetoys.com. Matie and her business partner Molly Adler opened Self Serve in 2007 to bring positive sexuality into the light of day, creating access for adults to find healthy experiences of sexuality. Molly and Matie have been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Self Serve has Best Sexy Shop in the Alibi for the last six years and Albuquerque Pride’s Most Outstanding Store Award. Matie is also the director of Pornotopia: Albuquerque’s infamous community run porn festival. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times.

About Self Serve:
Self Serve is a woman-owned sexuality resource center & boutique. In a culture where sex is sensationalized and unrealistically represented in the media, and silenced in day-to-day life, we offer a space that is frank, honest and friendly. Our compassionate and non-judgmental sex educators give you the space to ask the questions that make other people blush. Self Serve offers bodysafe adult toys, intimate lubricants, natural skin care, locally-made gifts, books, dvds, classes and private events. We support healthy sexuality over a lifetime, and hope to help people find more pleasure and joy in life.
About Pornotopia Film Festival:
Pornotopia is a film festival celebrating the beauty and diversity of sexuality. Imagine a world where erotic films don’t offend, but arouse. Where orgasms are real and filmmakers are independent. Pornotopia showcases films that keep it real, raw, tender and beautiful. In Pornotopia sex is fun, everyone gets off and pleasure is paramount. Pornotopia Film Festival enjoyed three wonderful years, from 2007 to 2009. In 2010, Self Serve & a community committee planned another exciting erotic film festival. It was sadly never to be. But now… they’re back! After a victorious ruling by the NM State Supreme Court, they are again able to produce the sexiest, most fun film festival in the Southwest.

 

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Sep 252013
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud, your ears are in for a special treat: Dixie De La Tour brings us sexy stories about sexy stories! Bawdy Storytelling – dubbed “The Moth for Pervs” by the LA Weekly – is the Nation’s Original Sex+Storytelling series. Founded, Emcee’ed and Curated by Dixie De La Tour, Bawdy features Real people & Rockstars sharing their Bona Fide Sexual Exploits in 10 minutes or less. For the past (almost) 7 years, Bawdy Storytelling’s one-of-a-kind approach to sexpositive personal narrative has coaxed liberating tales out of everyday people, creating unforgettable experiences for performers and audiences alike. We’ll talk to Dixie about how the event came into being and hear exclusive excerpts from a live performance.

Sexual Folklorist Dixie De La Tour founded Bawdy Storytelling, (the Nation’s Original sex and storytelling series featuring Real People & Rockstars) almost 7 years ago as a way to encourage real connection in San Francisco’s sexual underground. All in all, she’s been welcoming newcomers to San Francisco’s sexual underground for over 15 years (De La Tour, as in Tour Guide) – from creating, producing, volunteering for and managing sex positive events, to producing private parties, to teaching workshops, writing about sex & dating, community managing adult dating sites and much more. Dixie hopes to build Bawdy Storytelling into a national event because sexpositive community starts with a personal story; Storytelling makes sex education fun and entertaining and makes it a little harder to judge other people for their choices – listening to just one person’s story can start you down the road to empathy and acceptance for the ‘other.’

The Bawdy Events ‘trifecta’ includes Bawdy Storytelling (the curated mainstage storytelling event which features a different theme for each show) and Dixie also produces BawdySlam (a monthly story slam/competition in San Francisco & Los Angeles, with pervy prizes and the opportunity to compete in the Bawdy GrandSlam – that’s coming up in late October in SF and coming soon in LA) and she’s about to launch BawdyTalks (an sexuality-based event like TEDTalks). She also teaches workshops like Fearless Storytelling & Storytelling for Perverts– both of which feature the unique storytelling method she’s developed to help even the shyest person feel confident (yes, even Dixie had a fear of public speaking in the beginning, & what worked for her has now enabled hundreds of Bawdy Storytellers to face their fears, step onstage & share their sexual journey).

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Jul 242013
 

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Petra Joy is an award-winning filmmaker, photographer, and journalist who currently lives and works in England and makes “art-core” films from a female perspective. This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 5pm PT / 8 pm ET, she’ll discuss Sexual Sushi, the first film she produced and directed, as well as Her Porn, a series she began in 2008 to give fellow female directors a place to collect and distribute their work. Petra Joy will also discuss the Joy Awards, her ongoing collaboration with Candida Royalle and the impending launch of Cinema Joy, her own eclectic Video On Demand channel streaming with her own erotic films as well as films by other feminist porn directors whose work she loves.

After graduating in 1990 with an MA in film studies and history, Petra Joy worked for almost two decades as a freelance television director producing over 50 documentaries, mostly on (female) sexuality. This work took her to England where she still resides. In 2004, Petra produced and directed her first erotic film, Sexual Sushi . This unique erotic film, featuring a real-life couple and an artistic approach to erotic filmmaking, became a surprise success – even though or because it broke all the mainstream porn rules. Encouraged by this success Petra directed to date four more “art-core” films from a female perspective (Female Fantasies, Feeling it, The Female Voyeur, A Taste of Joy) that won multiple awards all over the world.

Finding similar-minded female directors through festival appearances and networking, Petra began to curate and publish the best-selling Her Porn series in 2008, giving fellow female directors a place to collect and distribute their work that may otherwise have gone unnoticed by many. Encouraged by the idea of promoting existing female directors, as well as wanting to mentor new ones, she created the Petra Joy Awards in 2009, a short film competition for first-time erotic film directors.

Petra continues to make headlines with her autobiographical book The She Pornographer. Female Fantasies: My Revolution Of Lust which was published by Heyne in Germany in June 2012.

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Mar 122013
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 5pm PT / 8 pm ET, we have a very special all erotica show! The entire hour will be devoted to the celebration of erotica literature and featuring authors and editors: Kristina Wright, Shanna Germain, Sacchi Green, Alison Tyler, and Delilah Devlin. We won’t just talking about erotica, you’ll also be treated to hearing some of the steamiest passages from these authors’ best books and best stories. Tune in for an intimate and sexy hour with five amazing rock stars from Cleis Press.

Described by The Romance Reader as “a budding force to be reckoned with,” Kristina Wright is a full-time writer and the editor of the bestselling Fairy Tale Lust, as well as other Cleis Press anthologies including Dream Lover; Steamlust; Lustfully Ever After; Duty and Desire and the Best Erotic Romance series. Kristina’s erotica and erotic romance fiction has appeared in over one hundred anthologies and her articles, interviews and book reviews have appeared in numerous publications, both print and online. She received the Golden Heart Award for Romantic Suspense from Romance Writers of America for her first novel Dangerous Curves and she’s a member of RWA as well as the special interest chapters Passionate Ink and Fantasy, Futuristic and Paranormal. She holds degrees in English and humanities and has taught composition and world mythology at the college level. Originally from South Florida, Kristina lives in Virginia with her husband Jay and their two little boys.

Shanna Germain claims the titles of writer, editor, leximaven, vorpal blonde, and schrodinger’s brat. With a whole lot of writing years under her belt (or her collar, depending on the day), Shanna’s poems, essays, short stories, novellas, articles and more have found homes in hundreds of magazines, newspapers, books and websites. An Associate Fellow at the Attic Institute in Portland, OR, she has taught classes in writing, publishing, media and photography at a wide variety of places. She’s even garnered an award here and there, including a Pushcart nomination, the Rauxa Prize for Erotic Poetry and the C. Hamilton Bailey Poetry Fellowship. Her most recent projects include Geek Love: An Anthology of Full Frontal Nerdity; Bound by Lust (Cleis Press); and Numenera, a tabletop roleplaying game from Monte Cook Games, LLC.

Sacchi Green is a Lambda award-winning writer and editor of erotica and other stimulating genres. Her stories have appeared in scores of publications, including seven volumes of Best Lesbian Erotica, four of Best Women’s Erotica, four of Best Lesbian Romance, Best Transgender Erotica, Best Fantasy Erotica, and Penthouse. She’s also edited nine lesbian erotica anthologies: Rode Hard, Put Away Wet (Suspect Thoughts Press); Hard Road, Easy Riding (Lethe Press); Lipstick on Her Collar (Pretty Things Press), and Lesbian Cowboys, Girl Crazy, Lesbian Lust, Lesbian Cops, Girl Fever, and Wild Girls, Wild Nights, all from Cleis Press. A collection of her own work, ¬A Ride to Remember, has been published by Lethe Press. Five of her books have been Lambda Award finalists, and Lesbian Cowboys, co-edited with Rakelle Valencia, won the Lambda Literary Award for Lesbian Erotica in 2010.

Called a “Trollop with a Laptop” by East Bay Express, a “Literary Siren” by Good Vibrations, and “over caffeinated” by her favorite local barista, Alison Tyler has made being naughty a full-time job. Her sultry short stories have appeared in more than 100 anthologies including Sex for America, Liaisons, and Bedding Down. In all things important, she remains faithful to her partner of 17 years, but she still can’t choose just one perfume. Find her 24/7 at alisontyler.blogspot.com.

Delilah Devlin is an award-winning author of erotic romance with a rapidly expanding reputation for writing edgy stories with complex characters. Ms. Devlin has published over a hundred twenty stories in multiple sub-genres and lengths with Atria/Strebor, Avon, Berkley, Black Lace, Cleis Press, Ellora’s Cave, Kensington, Kindle, Running Press, and Samhain Publishing. In January 2013, she added Montlake Romance to her list of publishers when SHATTERED SOULS released!

Feb 262013
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud I talk with Joan Price, author, editor, and ageless sexuality advocate. Joan will discuss her book Better Than I Ever Expected which first got her named “the senior sexpert” and her latest book, Naked At Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. We’ll get a sneak preview of her presentation at Catalyst Con in Washington DC in a couple weeks, as well the scoop on the latest anthology she edited, Ageless Erotica, a collection of hot stories where age is no limitation to getting busy.

Joan Price (www.joanprice.com) calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality, though she has also been dubbed “senior sexpert,” “the beautiful face of senior sex,” and “wrinkly sex kitten” by the media. Joan, age 69, has been writing, speaking, and blogging about senior sex since 2005. Formerly a health & fitness writer, she switched topics to senior sex when she wrote her spicy memoir, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, to celebrate the joys of older-age sexuality. Her blog (www.NakedAtOurAge.com) attracted a growing community of sex-positive (and sex-inquisitive) seniors who sent Joan their stories and questions. This led to her next book in 2011: Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, a compilation of 130 reader stories, advice from 45 experts, and Joan’s candid commentary. Naked at Our Age won Outstanding Self-Help Book 2012 from the American Society of Journalists and Authors (ASJA) and 2012 Book Award from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and the audiobook was nominated for an Audie in 2013. She recently edited a steamy senior sex anthology titled Ageless Erotica. Visit Joan’s zesty, award-winning blog about sex and aging at http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com, where Joan continues to talk out loud about Boomer/senior sex, partnered or solo.

Jan 152013
 

Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch/Femme Erotica
I am so thrilled to announce the release of the audio book version of my Lambda Literary Award-winning anthology Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch/Femme Erotica. It’s available on Amazon and Audible (you can even listen to a sample at Audible). First, I am just excited that the audio book market has really exploded recently, and audio book versions of several of my books have already been produced, including Best Lesbian Erotica 2007, Best Lesbian Erotica 2009, Best of the Best Lesbian Erotica, Hot Lesbian Erotica, and Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships (and coming soon: Down and Dirty Sex Secrets!). I think erotica books make especially good material for audio (of course) and queer erotica is where I got my start so it’s close to my heart. But what makes this one extra special is that I co-produced and narrated it! That’s right, here’s your chance to hear more than 7 hours of me talking dirty to you, reading smutty stories by folks like S. Bear Bergman, Toni Amato, D. Alexandria, Peggy Munson, Sinclair Sexsmith, Elaine Miller, Amie M. Evans, Alison Smith, and more. You’ll hear tales of the new femme in town and the butch pastry chef, the cop who passes as a guy and picks up straight girls at hip hop clubs, porn-watching butches who can’t keep their hands off each other, a sexy game of hide and seek in the woods, what happens when a femme trolls the personals for a date, one girl’s revenge on sweet-talking butches, a threesome with a power couple, girl-on-girl lipstick smearing, poetic public sex and some particularly incendiary roleplay. The stories are filled with dominant Daddies, butches with swagger, fierce femmes, strippers and sex workers, longtime lovers, femme tops, and plenty more. I promise you: it’s a good time! My producer and engineer on this project is a superstar in his own right: Dylan Keefe. Dylan is part of the team of geniuses who work on public radio show Radiolab and the bass player for Marcy Playground, an awesome 90s band famous for the song “Sex and Candy.” Dylan and I had so much fun in the studio together recording this, and we hope to collaborate on more projects together. I hope you’ll check it out, tell your friends, and enjoy this porn for your ears!

Jan 062013
 

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This week’s episode of Sex Out Loud has two different guests talking about their work giving voice to sexual minorities who are often marginalized in the community. Dr. Eli Sheff will talk about her new book based on her groundbreaking work with Polyamorous Family Study, a 16 year project. The mission of the Polyamorous Family Study is to provide high-quality, research-based information about poly families with kids using sound research methods based in years of sociological study. Sinclair Sexsmith is the kinky butch top behind the the popular Sugarbutch Chronicles. They’re also a writer, storyteller, and performer who studies critical feminist & gender theory, sexual freedom, social change activism, archetypes, and the tantric and buddhist spiritual systems.

dr eli sheffA pioneer in research on polyamory, Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamory in the US, and the worldwide expert on poly families with children, having conducted the only longitudinal analysis of poly families with children to date. After teaching Sociology for 15 years at three universities, Dr. Sheff established the Sheff Consulting Group (SCG), a think-tank of academicians and professionals who specialize in legal and educational services for unconventional populations, and those who need to know about them. As the Senior Legal Consultant at SCG, Dr. Sheff specializes in families of sexual minorities, providing expert witness services, home evaluations for unconventional families facing child custody issues or attempting to adopt kids, andcontinuing education to lawyers, educators, counselors, and therapists. Her book The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple Partner Relationships and Families is being published by Rowman and Littlefield in 2013.

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Sinclair Sexsmith (MrSexsmith.com) writes the award-winning personal online project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Sex, Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at SugarButch.net. They have contributed to more than a dozen anthologies, and is the editor of Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. They teach workshops ongender and sexuality throughout the US, including at various colleges.

Aug 102012
 

  • I recently appeared on the podcast Afroerotik, along with Dr. Cherie Ann Turpin, to have an in-depth conversation about race and sexuality. We talked about the implications and effects of continued stereotypes and racism in the adult industry and the how it affects perceptions in society. If you missed it, go listen to it now!

Take it slow.  Talk to your partner.  And don’t forget, just because you start off with strap-on play, doesn’t mean you have to end there, also, just because you start with anything else, doesn’t mean you can’t end with strap-on play.

(Thanks Jen!)

Jul 192012
 

“If you’ve been reading (or have heard about) Fifty Shades of Grey and you’re curious about how those kinky games are actually played, this book’s for you. Even if you don’t want to tie up your partner, you’ll learn how to do it right and why it appeals to the folks who play that game.”