Dec 192011
 

The Crunk Feminist Collective wrote up a great review of a new publication from the Brown Boi Project.  Freeing Ourselves: A Guide to Health and Self Love for Masculine Bois is a resource guide for Masculine of Center (MOC) people of color that covers health from several perspectives. CFC says about it:

The narratives of real self identified brown bois provided regarding their own journeys and processes around health were the most compelling element of the book. It is in these personal accounts that you really see the intersectional nature of health, the ways in which structural forms of oppression like queer hatred, racism, and other forms of discrimination impact people’s health on all levels.

You can get a copy of Freeing Ourselves here.

Dec 072011
 

Dossie Easton and Deobrah Taj Anapol will be giving a one-day workshop, Reclaiming Desire, on January 14, 2012 in San Rafael, CA. This is a great opportunity to engage with two amazing professionals and learn how to explore the power of your desires.  Details on the workshop and information on how to register below.

RECLAIMING DESIRE with Dossie Easton & Deborah Taj Anapol
January 14th, 2012, 11 am to 6 pm in San Rafael, CA

Dossie and Deborah have each been instrumental in creating today’s global shift toward embracing diversity in sexual relating. They now work to support people to create and maintain many varieties of healthy relationships. In this one-day workshop they will join forces to offer an extraordinary exploration of the power of sexual desire. Don’t miss this one-time collaboration of two powerful icons! While we need not act on every desire, when we deny what we feel we cast our disowned selves into the shadow along with our passion and our excitement. In this powerful experiential workshop we’ll journey through the obstacles and fears which can block our natural energy, and clear the path for amazing loving connections.

You can learn how to gracefully manage jealousy without stifling your feelings;
Be clear about who you are without getting stuck in a limiting identity; and
Know what you want and ask for it while honoring everyone’s relationships.

Cost: $108 per person. Register online here.

Deborah Taj Anapol, Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology is the author of Polyamory in the 21st Century, The Seven Natural Laws of Love and Love Without Limits. She now offers seminars, training, and sexual healing, tantra, and relationship coaching for partners & singles worldwide in person, via phone, & Skype. Visit her at www.lovewithoutlimits.com for complete schedule of upcoming workshops, books, free articles, and coaching formats.

Dossie Easton is a licensed psychotherapist working with individuals, couples and moresomes in her private practice in San Francisco. She is co-author with Janet Hardy of The Ethical Slut, Radical Ecstasy, and others, and she lectures and leads workshops on polyamory and ecstatic spiritual practices internationally. Dossie has been an active sex radical since 1961. Website: www.dossieeaston.com.

Oct 022011
 


What is the best piece of advice that you ever gave?

That’s a tough one because I give people advice every day through email, letters, lectures, workshops, and my writing. When I was working at Babeland, a woman came in looking for a few things to spice up her sex life with her boyfriend. They were just about to take a romantic vacation. About 9 months later, she came to one of my workshops, with the boyfriend, and they both told me that her trip to the store that day, and meeting me, changed their sex lives. When I have experiences like that, it means so much to me, and it lets me know that the advice I give really can have an important effect on people.

Sep 122011
 


I directed three new sex-ed shorts—on cunnilingus, fellatio, and the G-spot—for the fabulous feminist sex shop and site The Smitten Kitten. They star me, Dylan Ryan, and Danny Wylde and you can watch them for free here. I’m very proud of how they turned out, and can’t wait to hear what all of you think. In addition to some solid information, there is super hot sex—er, demonstrations—by Dylan and Danny. This was the first time these two had ever worked together, which is always a totally mystery going in. As it turns out, they have insane can’t-keep-their-hands-off-each-other chemistry. We shot so much good stuff that we had plenty left over. So, in addition to the sex ed shorts, you can purchase a full sex scene, “Dylan + Danny: Extra Credit,” on demand. Photos above are by Clare from The Smitten Kitten who was on set.

Sep 062011
 


I’m so excited that my new book, The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation will be out in October from Quiver Books. Yup, that means I have two books coming out in one month (the other one is Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica)! This is my third book for Quiver, which specializes in sex ed books with photos. I like to think of them as erotic educational coffee table books.

The publisher has original photography shot for each book it publishes, and I was especially excited to learn that famous second-generation pornographer (who I profiled in my Village Voice column years ago) Holly Randall was the photographer for this project! I even got to be on set one day, which was a ton of fun. Quiver’s books are marketed toward straight couples and do a brisk business at Barnes & Noble, so the photography reflects that: it’s softcore and pretty heteronormative.

When I wrote The Anal Sex Position Guide for them, I specifically told them that I would be discussing male anal pleasure and pegging (strap-on anal sex with female givers and male receivers), and I wanted there to be photos of both in the book. This was a departure from all past books, and seemed to be way out of their comfort zone, but they agreed to it. It made me so happy!

When we talked about the G-spot book, once again, I challenged them. If I am was going to write a book about the G-spot, I wanted to speak to lots of folks with G-spots, including women who have sex with women. So, I wanted my book to feature images of women having sex with men and with other women (they aren’t ready for people of other genders, trust me). While Quiver has published one book about lesbian sex, it has never done a book that depicts different sexual partnering side by side. Again, they agreed! I also got to pick the models for the woman/woman pairing, so I recommended Lexi Belle and India Summer, two women I have had the pleasure of directing who I know really enjoy having sex with women. I’m happy about how the book looks, and can’t wait to see it on the shelves.

You can pre-order it now from Amazon for 36% off the cover price.
I’m hitting the road on tour this fall, and you can see my schedule here.

Aug 242011
 

When I first conceptualized The Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex, I wanted it to be truly advanced and reflect the content of the Advanced Anal Sex workshop that I teach. So I believed it should include two important components: anal pleasure with both men and women as receivers and anal fisting. I knew both could be controversial. Men receiving anal penetration usually shows up in pegging-specific porn, so it might surprise some viewers. And fisting…well, fisting opens up a pandora’s box when it comes to mainstream porn.

There is a lot of misinformation out there about fisting and porn, so I want to cover some basics before I delve into the specifics. Both vaginal fisting and anal fisting can be seen in GLBT, queer, kinky, and indie porn, which is mostly produced by independent directors and distributed by small companies. Mainstream porn companies rarely shoot vaginal or anal fisting. This censorship is self-imposed and comes straight from adult industry lawyers. Basically, fisting is on a list of consensual activities we (those of us who work for mainstream companies) can’t shoot along with piss play, enema play, and certain types of BDSM. Why don’t we shoot them?

The lawyers are trying to prevent companies from being indicted and successfully prosecuted for obscenity. Obscenity, as it is (nebulously) defined in the law is a huge topic, so let me point you to some readings on it. John Stagliano successfully fought his obscenity prosecution and won in 2010, but it cost him a ton of money and time and was dismissed based on a lot of legal technicalities rather than a ruling that the content was not obscene. Max Hardcore went to jail for obscenity in 2009 (his videos showed fisting, peeing, and vomiting). In 2002, Seymore Butts was successfully prosecuted for depictions of vaginal and anal fisting in a scene between Alisha Klass and Chloe in the movie Tampa Tushy Fest Part 1 (background here: (PBS/Frontline  and Violet Blue’s Tiny Nibbles). To be clear, fisting is not specified as obscene under the law. However, it did appear in a memo in the 80s from an LA D.A. as something that could trigger obscenity charges. While Seymore’s prosecution wasn’t entirely successful for the District Attorney (it ended with a plea bargain which favored Seymore), Max Harcore’s was, and both just reinforce the fears among the industry’s big companies that fisting is a potential danger zone.

So fisting is on a list of no-no’s. Ironically, some of the same companies that won’t shoot fisting do shoot things like: double vaginal penetration (two dicks in one vagina simultaneously), double anal penetration (two dicks in one ass simultaneously), and giant toys bigger than a person’s fist. But five fingers and the entire hand? Nope.

It’s arbitrary. It’s bizarre. It censors what I consider to be a radical, queer, and kinky activity. A sex act that doesn’t require a penis and is not intercourse-based (like the aforementioned double penetrations). One that can be done by folks of all genders and sexual orientations. One that has its roots in gay and lesbian sexuality. One that people practice and enjoy, and I happen to really love.

But I knew fisting was off the table because I work for Vivid Entertainment, a large mainstream company that is an easy target for the government.

When I shot the movie, I decided to shoot some additional footage. After we shot the “workshop” portion of the movie (where I give viewers a lesson on anatomy, hygiene, lube, toys, techniques, etc.), I shot a little bit of me talking about anal fisting. Then, when I shot the scene with Kylie Ireland and James Deen, I decided I would shoot a little extra. It seemed perfect. I mean, Kylie loves anal fisting. She does it in her personal life, she has orgasms from it, and she speaks articulately and enthusiastically about it on camera. During the scene, they got to five-fingers-but-not-quite-fisting. Black Dragon nitrile gloves and the Hitachi Magic Wand came along for the ride. A good time was had by all! I didn’t shoot the whole hand-chilada, because I, too, could be at risk of prosecution.

Here’s the deal: I’m burning 25 DVDs of my educational mini-feature on anal fisting. The first 25 people to order The Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex on my site will receive this Limited Edition DVD, hand signed and numbered by me. I know some folks might still be disappointed not to see anal fisting, but I hope my fans will appreciate that I’m still getting the information out there. So, order early, and it can be yours!

Part 2 of this blog, with more specifics about Kylie and James’ scene for the movie, coming later today.

Jun 292011
 

That’s right folks: I’m back with another video on my favorite subject of all time: anal sex! Introducing The Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex, my latest movie from Vivid-Ed. This is the first unveiling of the cover, which features superstars Bobbi Starr and Mr. Marcus. I’ll be blogging every few days about my experiences shooting each scene and give you exclusive photos to look at, too!

DVDs ship from the warehouse to stores July 11!
You can support my work directly & pre-order from me here. Save 30% off the regular price when you do!