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Anal Advisor: Want a White Eye

Jan 162014

A few months ago I was watching a cable station late at night and they had a segment on porn stars. In this program, they dealt with one girl’s preparations for filming. She discussed her tattoos, piercings, and laser removal of her pubic hair. She had her hair touched up, nails done, legs waxed, and did a stretch in the tanning bed. While she was having her makeup applied, she mentioned that she had her rectum bleached. I had never heard of that.

One night while preparing for anal sex, I noticed a dark discoloration around my anus. I told my husband about the show I watched and explained how this performer had her rectum bleached. He told me that I was crazy. Was I? Is there something out there that can bleach this discoloration away? If so, I would like to know more about it. Can this be done at home? What products can be used and where can I buy them? I have a lot of adult movies and I have noticed that most of the female actors look like they may have bleached their butts.

–Want a White Eye

You were not imagining things, there are products on the market to bleach the skin, and a few are marketed specifically as anal bleaching creams. I’ll bet you saw the segment on Dr. 90210 on E! where adult film star Tabitha Stevens went to Pink Cheeks salon in Southern California and had her asshole bleached. The salon sells its own cream, Pink Cheeks Amazing Anal Bleaching Cream (and you can order it over the phone, 818-906-8225). According to its label, the cream’s active ingredient is 4% hydroquinone, a substance used to lighten dark skin. It comes with instructions that recommend you have your anus waxed prior to application, and that you use it every night until you achieve the shade you want (which typically is in a week or two). There is a less expensive alternative, simply called Anal Bleaching Cream.

These products have not exactly registered on the Food and Drug Administration’s radar, so the safety of them has not been researched. The fact is everyone’s skin around their anus is a darker shade than their regular skin tone; in other words, it’s natural and I’m inclined not to fuck with it. Plus, your perception that “most of the female actors look like they may have bleached their butts” is not accurate; some have, but the majority of brown eyes you see on screen are as nature made them.

Jan 17: Dr. Eli Sheff and Anita Wagner Illig on Polyamory, Non-Monogamy, and the Current Reality of Relationships

Jan 152014

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This Friday, January 17th on Sex Out Loud radio I’m live talking about polyamory, non-monogamy, the current reality of relationships and how we can change future ideas about what is a healthy and sustainable norm. Dr. Eli Sheff returns to the show having just released her book “The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple Partner Relationships and Families“, a culmination of her 15 years of research on the topic. We also have Anita Wagner Illig, founder of Practical Polyamory, a leader and educator whose work has provided many resources to people.

This week’s show is LIVE, which means we’ll be giving away a Sportsheets prize to a lucky fan. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air – you could be chosen to win!

Anita Wagner Illig is a thought leader, coach, writer, spokesperson and educator on polyamory, relationship choice and families of the heart. She serves on the Advisory Council of The Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance, is a past organizer of the Polyamory Leadership Summit, is an active member of the Polyamory Leadership Network, and also serves as polyamory community advisor to CARAS – the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities. She is a faculty member at KinkAcademy.com and PassionateU.com. She has served as a member of the Board of Directors of Loving More® and Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness, and is co-founder and former member of the Board of Directors of the Institute for 21st Century Relationships/the Foundation of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. She is also a past board member of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Anita has presented educational programs on polyamory and family/relationship choice at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, Momentum con, Poly Living, Loving More Retreats, Atlanta Poly Retreat (Keynote), Transcending Boundaries, Washington Area Secular Humanists, Good Vibrations, The Floating World, Sex 2.0, Dark Odyssey, Black Rose, Fetfest, Southeast Leather Fest, Building Bridges, Free Spirit Beltane Gathering, Florida Poly Retreat, and to a variety of alternative sexual and relationship organizations. She has keynoted and been a featured speaker at polyamory conferences and pride celebrations and has authored articles on polyamory and bisexuality. Anita has appeared on television in interviews on polyamory in Washington, DC and Baltimore and in news articles in The New York Times, Newsweek, the Baltimore Sun, Washington Post, BBC and Salon.com, amongst many others.

With a Ph.D. in Sociology,[1] 15 years of teaching[2] and research experience,[3] and certifications as a Guardian Ad Litem/Court Appointed Special Advocate[4] and a sexuality educator,[5] Dr. Elisabeth Sheff has the education, experience, and credentials to provide flawless legal and educational consultation. Dr. Sheff is the foremost academic and legal expert on polyamory in the United States, and the worldwide expert on polyamorous families. Her academic research has focused on sexual minorities and their families. Dr. Sheff’s Polyamorous Families study followed poly families with children for 15 years, tracing the evolution of the families and the progress of the children. This unparalleled study has resulted in numerous professional and academic publications. In her Overlapping Identities and Are You Kinky? studies, Dr. Sheff examined the intersections between and among unconventional sexual identities, including swingers, kinksters (people who practice BDSM or sadomasochism), and polyamorists.

Dr. Sheff is widely recognized by her peers and the media as an international expert in polyamory and BDSM. She served as the chair of the Sexual, Behavior, Politics, and Communities Division for the Society for the Study of Social Problems (SSSP) from In addition to serving as the polyamory expert and IRB compliance specialist for the Community Academic Alliance for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS), Dr. Sheff founded the online research community PolyResearchers that has grown to include 327 members in 17 different countries and 16 different fields.

Her extensive media interviews include national outlets like Newsweek, The Boston Globe, and National Public Radio, and international sources such as Semana magazine in Columbia, Mente e Cervello (the Italian edition of Scientific American), Elle magazine in Quebec, and the Sunday London Times. In addition to appearing in the National Geographic television series Taboo episode entitled “Odd Couples” and the documentary BDSM: Education and Experience, Dr. Sheff has provided background information for several television shows including the Discovery Channel’s I’m Pregnant And…, and the Canadian National Television series The Bigger Picture as well as numerous interviews with online magazines like Momlogic.com and Seattle Met, and podcasts like Polyamory Weekly and How Stuff Works.

Dr. Sheff has the expertise, training, experience, credentials and education to provide effective testimony regarding gender, families, sexuality, communities, and especially on the families of sexual minorities and unconventional relationships. She also possesses rare knowledge useful to counselors, therapists, nurses, and lawyers, as well as the teaching experience necessary to present the information in an interesting and accessible format.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

[1] Ph.D. in Sociology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, 2005

[2] Teaching at the University of Colorado, Boulder; University of Montana, Missoula; and Georgia State University, Atlanta

[3] The Polyamorous Families Study (1997 – 2012); The Overlapping Sexual Identities Study (2005 – 2006); The Are you Kinky? Study (2006 – 2011)

[4] State of Georgia, Bar Association

Jan 10: Annie Sprinkle and Elizabeth Stephens on SexEcology

Jan 072014

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This week’s Sex Out Loud is bringing you one of our most requested guests! Annie Sprinkle and Elizabeth Stephens are two ecosexual artists-in-love who have been collaborating with each other and various international communities for 11 years. They created a new field of research, “Sexecology,” exploring the places where sexology and ecology intersect in our culture– in art, theory, practice and activism. They’ll talk about the origin of sexecology, ecosex performance art weddings, Sexecological Walking Tours, visual art installations, and their latest project, a film about mountain top removal coal mining destruction in Appalachia. Tune in Friday at 8 pm ET / 5p PT to hear my interview with them on Sex Out Loud.

Elizabeth M. Stephens is interdisciplinary artist, activist and educator who has explored themes of sexuality, gender, queerness, and feminism through art for over 20 years. Her current passion is SexEcology: the art of exploring the Earth as a lover. This work is designed to create the desire in others to love, cherish and honor the earth as they would their own lover, instead of expecting the earth to take care of them as one might expect from one’s mother. SexEcology combines Stephens’ interest in sexuality and ecology in order to help stop environmental degradation and bring about environmental healing and pleasure. Some of her other works include the bronze sculptural installation, The Academic/Porn Star Panty Collection; the road trip performance piece Wish You Were Here; the video installation, Kiss, as well as her ongoing collaboration with Annie Sprinkle in the Love Art Laboratory. She has exhibited and performed in museums, galleries and festivals around the world.

Annie M. Sprinkle is an internationally known multi-media artist whose work is often studied in History of Performance Art classes, gender studies and film studies at major Universities/Colleges. Sprinkle has continuously toured one-woman theater performances about her life since 1989, such as Post Porn Modernist and Hestory of Porn. One of the pivotal players in the 80’s “sex positive feminist movement,” Ms. Sprinkle’s art work has long championed sex education and equal rights. The film she produced and directed, The Sluts and Goddesses Video Workshop has played in well over 100 film festivals, at museums and galleries, including at the Guggenheim in NYC. She became the first sex film star to successfully bridge into the world of art, and to earn a Ph.D., which she was awarded from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, in 2002. She is a popular visiting artist at many Universities. Annie Sprinkle’s autobiographical book, Post Porn Modernist broke new ground in art books that include sexually oriented imagery. Her book, Hard Core From the Heart; The Pleasures, Profits and Politics of Sex in Performance was published by Continuum Press for the academic market and won the Firecracker Alternative Book Award (2002).

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Racial Pornographics: A Special Issue of Porn Studies – Submit Abstract by Jan 8, 2013!

Jan 032014

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This special issue of Porn Studies will promote a discussion about race in the study of pornography. Race remains an underdeveloped area of research in porn studies, and employing racial analytics to the study of pornography’s historical, representational, market, labor, industrial, and technological production is imperative for the field. Race is crucial for the field because it allows us to think through power relations that function in concert with gender, sexuality, and class, to uncover the historical importance of unequal looking relations, labor relations, and access to media authorship, and to reveal the ways in which desire, sexual and otherwise, is inextricably bound to processes of racialization.

A critical racial optic illuminates the interests, desires, and experiences of racialized minorities as they are portrayed in, mobilize, or labor within pornographic fields. This mode of analysis may draw upon the theoretical scholarship of critical race scholars, women of color feminists, and queer of color critique as well as on the emerging field of porn studies scholarship to think through the fantasies, energies, connectivities, pleasures, and power relations embedded in racial pornographies. Another function of a racial optics is to expose the rise of colorblindness or postracial ideologies in popular media discourses and academic theories about pornography, even as race is ever more salient to adult industries in a neoliberal era.

In addition, this special issue of Porn Studies will highlight research that launches pornographics as a framework for examining cultural productions and social relations outside of the genre and industry of pornography. Increasingly, scholars have drawn on pornography as a lens to problematize racial, gender, and sexual discourses, structures, and economies in ways that reveal the utility of pornographics as a mode of cultural inquiry that exceeds the formal confines of adult entertainment industries and networks of particular erotic communities. The goal of this special issue is to read the labor of race in pornography or pornographics, and the labor of pornography or pornographics in race.

Finally, although this is a scholarly journal we welcome essays, interviews, and creative pieces from academics, artists, activists, and adult industry practitioners.

About Porn Studies

New in 2014, Porn Studies is an international, peer-reviewed journal, which publishes original research examining specifically sexual and explicit media forms, their connections to wider media landscapes and their links to the broader spheres of (sex) work across historical periods and national contexts.

Topics

Ø Race or racial minorities in pornographic images

Ø Race or racial minorities in adult entertainment labor, racialized sex work

Ø Deployments of racialized discourses in porn or discussions of porn

Ø Colorblindness and postracial ideologies in porn or discussions of porn

Ø Race in the production, distribution, or consumption of porn media technologies

Ø Race or racial minorities in pornographic aesthetics or art

Ø Racial discourses in antiporn or sex positive feminist approaches to pornography

Ø Histories of race or racial minorities in pornography or pornographic cultural production

Ø Ethnopornography and race

Ø Racial or interracial communities in pornography

Ø Race in global, transnational, or diasporic pornographies

Ø Racial fetishism

Ø Race and disability politics in pornography

Ø Race and BDSM in pornography

Ø Queer and feminist approaches to race and racism in pornography

Ø Racial politics in porn activism, health issues, and legal concerns

Ø Race and obscenity law, censorship, or free speech issues

Ø Race and class in access to pornography, circulations of explicit media

Ø Race in pornographic pop culture, sex tapes, viral videos, animation, and gaming

Ø Race in feminist pornography, queer pornography, trans pornography, and gay porn

Ø Race pleasure, racial pain, racial disgust, racial desire and other affective domains

Ø Radical approaches to race or the methodology of racial studies in pornography

Format

The journal special issue will consist of original articles, book and/or film reviews, conference proceedings, photo essays, and a forum or dialogue based interview essay.

Submission formats:

Ø Original articles, approximately 6,000-7,000 words in length (including notes)

Ø Book or film reviews, approximately 1000-2000 words in length (including notes)

Ø Conference proceedings or Photo Essay, approximately 1200 to 2000 words in length (including notes)

Ø Forum pieces, Interviews, or Dialogue/Debate essays, approximately 3,000 to 5,000 words in length (including notes)

Style Guidelines:

Manuscripts are accepted in English, OED spelling and punctuation preferred, including use of single quotation marks. Authors should include 1-5 keywords, 150 word abstract, and a short biographical note. Manuscript preparation instructions for Taylor and Francis publications and Routledge journals can be found here: http://www.tandfonline.com/action/authorSubmission?journalCode=rprn20&page=instructions#.UpOSA42f8sg

Timeline

Ø Deadline to Receive Notice of Intent to Submit a Manuscript, 150-200 word Abstract: January 8, 2014

Ø Deadline to Receive Full Submissions: April 11, 2014

Ø Expected Publication Date: September 2015

Address questions and submissions to:

Dr. Mireille Miller-Young
Department of Feminist Studies
4631 South Hall
University of California
Santa Barbara, CA 93106 USA
Email: mmilleryoung@femst.ucsb.edu

Jan 3: Steven St. Croix on Everything You Want to Know about Porn Stars (and Are Embarrassed to Ask)

Jan 022014

This Friday, January 3rd at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET, Sex Out Loud welcomes to the show one of the most prolific male stars in the adult industry, Steven St. Croix, who will pull back the curtain on his 20+ years in the business as both a performer and a director. We’ll hear how he got his start as a entertainer, stories from his favorite and most outrageous scenes, and what inspired him to write them all down for his new book “Porn Star.” Plus, we’re live and we’ll be taking calls and questions.
This week’s show is LIVE, which means we’ll be giving away a Sportsheets prize to a lucky fan. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air – you could be chosen to win!

Steven St. Croix has performed in over 1200 full length feature movies with over 1600 woman on camera. He received 55 nominations for AVN, XRCO and XBIZ Awards (and 19 wins), won 2 Nightmoves Awards, and is a member of both the AVN and XRCO Halls of Fame. He’s the triple crown winner for Best Actor 2013 for XBIZ, AVN and XRCO for his role in “Torn”. St. Croix is the first male star to be signed to an exclusive contract with a video company, the first male contract star for Vivid Video, and had his penis insured for $1 million dollars through Lloyd’s of London. In addition to starring in films for Vivid, Adam & Eve, Penthouse, Wicked, Cinemax, and Hustler, he’s also written and directed 20 adult films. He’s widely known for comedic and dramatic roles, including parts in Baywatch, Babylon 5, Diagnosis Murder, Six Feet Under, The Client List and Castle. His latest book is “Porn Star: Everything You Want to Know and Are Embarrassed to Ask.”

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Dec 27: Dr. Cheryl Cohen Greene on Sex, Love, and Her Journey As A Surrogate Partner

Dec 262013

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This week’s episode of Sex Out Loud is once again live on Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET, with Cheryl Cohen Greene, a Certified Sexologist, with a doctorate in Human Sexuality, a 20 year member of the San Francisco Sex Information Training Staff, and a surrogate partner for over 30 years. Her work with writer Mark O’Brien was portrayed in the movie The Sessions and she’ll talk about the experience of seeing her work depicted in a Hollywood film. Cohen Greene will share parts of her memoir, An Intimate Life, Sex, Love, and My Journey As A Surrogate Partner, as well as answer questions from listeners.

Cheryl Cohen Greene has been in private clinical practice as a Surrogate Partner and Consultant in Human Sexuality in Berkeley, CA since 1973. She was trained in the Masters and Johnson modality. She was on the training staff of San Francisco Sex Information for 19 years. She is a Certified Clinical Sexologist / Sex Educator and in 2004 she earned her DHS (Doctor of Human Sexuality) from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. Currently Cohen Greene serves as the Vice President of IPSA (the International Professional Surrogates Association). She is a frequent media guest, who has been interviewed on Larry King Live, the National Geographic Channel, the WE Channel, Joy Behar’s Show, Say Anything, and CNN among others. Her work with poet and journalist Mark O’Brien was adapted into a major motion picture titled THE SESSIONS starring Helen Hunt as Cheryl Cohen Greene. Cohen Greene’s memoir AN INTIMATE LIFE, Sex, Love, and My Journey As A Surrogate Partner, was released in January 2013.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Ask Tristan: A Guide to Getting the Gush

Dec 212013

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I got a letter from a guy who was just dying to make his girlfriend squirt. “I’m a bass player and have very strong hands and fingers. When I have fingered her before and really gone for it, she’s had a trickle come out. But I would love her to soak me in her juices!” he wrote. Some men are actually freaked out when a woman ejaculates; they may not understand it or they may think she’s peeing. I loved his enthusiasm, and I had plenty to say to him.

There are so many factors-and many unknowns-when it comes to female ejaculation. Every woman has a g-spot (also known as the urethral sponge), so, technically speaking, all women have the “equipment” to be able to do ejaculate. When stimulated, the tissue of the urethral sponge fills with blood, becomes engorged, and swells. The paraurethral glands surrounding the sponge fill with fluid and also swell. No one is sure why some women ejaculate often, some women do it occasionally, and some women never do. The majority of women achieve it through direct g-spot stimulation, but some can squirt via clitoral stimulation or anal penetration alone. When a woman is very aroused, (and especially when firm pressure is applied to her urethral sponge) the glands release the fluid through the urethra, and she ejaculates. The fluid is similar to fluid produced by a man’s prostate, and although it comes out the urethra, it is different from urine. The quantity of fluid and the way it comes out can also very widely. Some women produce a lot of fluid, others only a little; some gush like a fountain while others dribble. Many women fall in between the two ends of the spectrum, and, of course, some experience one or the other depending on the situation.

As we communicated, it was clear that the letter writer had a good grip on technique in terms of finding that spongy area about an inch and a half to two inches inside the pussy and using firm, deliberate motion with his fingers. I also encouraged him to get his girlfriend as turned on as possible before even starting to work her g-spot. The more aroused she is, the more her urethral sponge will swell and fill with fluid. Use a “come here” motion with fingers or a very firm toy (like one made of acrylic, glass, or metal) or act like you’re almost pulling down on the g-spot. If you’ve got something big inside her-four or more fingers, a large dildo, or your cock-you may have to pull out and switch to just two fingers. Something large can actually block the urethra and either prevent ejaculation or lessen its potential explosive delivery. The best way to get my ex-girlfriend to squirt was to fist her and work her g-spot with the knuckle of my thumb as I pumped my hand in and out of her pussy. But once she felt like she was going to squirt (and she knew, so she’d always tell me), I had to slide my hand out, and replace it with only a finger or two. Then, I’d basically press firmly on her g-spot and out the fluid would come!

My ex knew a lot about her own ejaculation process, what worked and what didn’t. But if the potential squirter is a novice, the first thing she needs to do is relax-as much as one can relax when they’re really turned on! Then she should bear down slightly as if she is trying to push something out of her pussy. This is one of the toughest things for women to do because many are afraid they’re going to pee. But bearing down will help push the fluid out the urethra. In fact, often, just before a woman is about to squirt, she has that urgent “I’ve gotta pee feeling” and she may also have this sense of overstimulation. Sometimes, both these feelings make her stop. Once it feels like too much, that’s often the edge of ejaculation, and if you keep going, then you’ll squirt.

Some experienced squirters say that once they squirt the first time, if they continue the stimulation, they can do it several times more. In fact, the first time I ever saw a woman ejaculate was at a sex party. I ran into my friend Kim in the bathroom. She was obviously fresh from some kind of escapade, and she said, “Dave made me gush like crazy!” I was curious, so she said, “Wanna see?” She grabbed me and dragged me out of the ladies’ room to a corner of one of the playrooms. She slipped two fingers inside her pussy and made herself ejaculate. “Once I start,” she said, “I can just keep going and going!”

So, I gave this guy some advice and information, but there was another point I really wanted to stress. This is important in the wake of the increased discussion about g-spot stimulation and female ejaculation in books, articles, and on the Web. Sometimes women feel like if they don’t enjoy this kind of stimulation or they can’t ejaculate, then they’ve failed in some way. I want to caution you about any kind of goal-oriented sex. I think it’s fun to explore new things, but it’s also important to value your sexuality as it is. Maybe this guy’s girlfriend will only ejaculate occasionally and maybe she’s a “leaker” or a “dribbler” rather than a geyser of gush. That may be just they way her body works. That’s okay. I don’t want any woman to feel pressure to perform in some way or to do something that doesn’t turn her on. Sometimes, we really buy into the whole bigger-is-better ideal and lose sight of the fact that our sexuality can be amazing just as it is.

Dec 20: Dirty Holiday Stories with Matthew Stillman, Alison Tyler, and Thomas Roche

Dec 182013

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This week’s Sex Out Loud, premiering on December 20th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET, is an erotica show with a twist – first we have Matthew Stillman, author of Genesis Deflowered, a new book in the genre of Biblical Erotica in Elizabethan English. He’ll discuss what inspired the idea and will share a passage to make you rethink some of those Christian traditions. Then we welcome back erotica writer Alison Tyler who will share from the holiday-themed collections she has compiled and edited. She brings along writer Thomas Roche who will share some steamy Yuletide cheer as well.

Matthew Stillman, born & bred New Yorker, ran program development at Food Network for many years. He conceived of & produced the film “The End of Poverty?” that premiered at the Cannes Film Festival & went to 40 film festivals. He spoke at the UN four times about the film. A lifetime with literature, inner spiritual work from different traditions, creativity & play, he has written “Genesis Deflowered” in a genre that he may have just made up – Biblical Erotica written in Elizabethan English.

Called a “Trollop with a Laptop” by East Bay Express, a “Literary Siren” by Good Vibrations, and “over caffeinated” by her favorite local barista, Alison Tyler has made being naughty a full-time job. Her sultry short stories have appeared in more than 100 anthologies including Sex for America, Liaisons, and Bedding Down. In all things important, she remains faithful to her partner of 17 years, but she still can’t choose just one perfume. Find her 24/7 at alisontyler.blogspot.com.

Thomas S. Roche has been writing professionally since the 1980s. He’s written more than 400 published short stories in many genres, including science fiction, fantasy, horror and crime-noir, but is best known for his work in short erotic fiction. His most recent book is The Panama Laugh, a paramilitary science fiction zombie apocalypse about viral media, for which he was a finalist for the Bram Stoker Award from the Horror Writers Association. Roche served as the Marketing Manager at Good Vibrations, and has worked for Alt.com, The Eros Guide and Eros Zine, TinyNibbles.com, Gothic.net, GettingIt.com. Now, he’s publisher and editor in chief of the e-book erotica publisher Deception Press. He recently celebrated the twentieth year of with the nonprofit San Francisco Sex Information, for which he is currently an instructor on the organization’s Training Staff that trains new volunteers and other community health professionals, advocates and activists.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Release of Kickstarter-Funded Trans Focused Adult Film Doing It Again Vol. 1: Playful Awakenings

Dec 172013

Quick Links:
Pre-Order DVD online
Order wholesale copies of the DVD
Watch the trailer at the official Doing It Again website

Press Contact for Doing It Again: Tobi Hill-Meyer, Tobi@handbasketproductions.com

Contact for TROUBLEfilms: Courtney Trouble, info@troublefilms.com

Website: http://troublefilms.com, http://doingitonline.com

Feminist Porn Award Winning filmmaker Tobi Hill-Meyer directed this highly anticipated follow-up to Doing It Ourselves: The Trans Women Porn Project

This Tuesday, December 17th 2013, Handbasket Productions in conjunction with indie distributor TROUBLEfilms will be releasing the first volume of the groundbreaking erotic documentary series Doing it Again.

Volume 1: Playful Awakening follows four pairings of trans women with trans partners, some who’ve just met and some who’ve been together for decades.

FPA heartthrob recipient Drew Deveaux returns to the screen in this highly anticipated, Kickstarter-funded indie film project, and up and coming star Hayley Fingersmith joins her for the highlighted first scene of the film, shot at the legendary Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco.

Mixing in depth interviews and explicit sex scenes, this is a holistic portrayal of trans women’s sexuality that has not been seen before. Special care has been taken to create accessibility tools that with subtitles in English, French, Spanish, and German and a Descriptive Audio track for people who are blind or have limited vision.

If you are in Seattle you can attend the premiere of Doing It Again at the Cockpit on Saturday Dec. 14th. Please reference the Facebook event for more information: https://facebook.com/events/703123163044867/

Be on the lookout for Volume 2: Fearless Revealing, focusing on trans women with cis (non-trans) partners expected in March and Volume 3: Passionate Sweetness focusing on trans women and genderqueers expected in June.

Doing It Again Vol. 1: Playful Awakenings is currently available for wholesale orders, please contact info@troublefilms.com and visit http://troublefilms.com/ordering-information

Online and DVD screeners available for press review, contact Courtney Trouble at info@troublefilms.com

DVD and digital download for purchase directly from film-maker at http://doingitonline.com

Anal Advisor: In Anal Agony

Dec 142013

I feel like my current relationship will cause my entire existence to revolve around my asshole! I’m no anal virgin, mind you. I’ve got plenty of experience with enemas, plugs, fucking and exploration. I rather enjoy it all! But how much is too much? I am in a Dominant/submissive relationship, and my Master has recently requested that I remain plugged 24/7/365, only removing it to relieve myself or during extreme illness or injury. When I wear a plug for a long time, I get sore and unpleasantly distracted very quickly. I know this isn’t always a bad thing, but it’s starting to interfere with my work and overall life. He also expects me to do complete enemas with a shower hose every day. Right now, I’ve only got the resources to do that once or twice a week, but it plays hell with my whole system for days afterwards!

Does it get better with time and a more stringent routine? So much of it already throws off my entire being! I’ve run the predictable course of diarrhea, constipation, nausea, loss of appetite, cramping, soreness, irritation and have lost a considerable amount of weight (20 pounds) in just over a month. I can’t say that all of it is related to the new ass attentions, but I’m certain that the majority is.

How do I continue to want to do what my Master expects of me and not flatly refuse what I think will ultimately cause damage? I just don’t want to be hurting and sick all the time. Everything seems to revolve around my ass. It’s frustrating and doesn’t make me feel anywhere nearly as good as I want it to. Instead of feeling clean and “free” afterwards, or pleasantly full and reminded, I feel more drained and exhausted. Sure, my ass might smell like daisies and be stretched to “convenient” proportions, but it’s no fun anymore and goes way beyond that.

I sometimes even feel like without my ass, what would He want with me? I don’t want to take the fun out of it for my Master, but I feel like if I can’t get over this one hurdle. So much of His passion is about anal, so our whole compatibility might be in jeopardy. He cares about me and I don’t think He wants to intentionally hurt me, but I’m barely keeping up! What can I do?

–In Anal Agony

You are missing two critical elements in your Dominant/submissive relationship: consent and mutual satisfaction. It sounds to me like you are blindly following orders that are physically harming you and that you don’t enjoy on any level. D/s relationships can help us test our own boundaries, but the relationship you describe is way out of bounds. No one should have an enema every day. No one can wear a butt plug 24/7. It sounds like your Master has been reading too much fantasy fiction and hasn’t had enough real-world experience, because what he is asking of you is impractical, unsafe, and bizarre. I support fantasizing about wild, out there things and I support Dominants who threaten submissives with various kinds of torture, but this crosses the line. You must speak up for yourself and he must be willing to negotiate more realistic expectations, otherwise this is a one-way relationship you shouldn’t be in.

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